To forgive (原谅) is a virtue (美德), but no one has ever said it is easy. When someone has deeply hurt you, forgiveness is possible. People who forgive get less sadness, anger, according to a recent research.

【小题1】 Try the following steps.

Calm yourself. You can take a couple of breaths and think of something that gives you pleasure: a beautiful scene in nature, or someone you love.

Don’t wait for an apology (道歉). 【小题2】 If you wait for people to apologize, you could wait for a very long time. Remember that forgiveness does not only mean becoming friends again with the person who hurt you.

Take the control away from your offender (冒犯者). Thinking about your hurt gives power to the person who brought you pain. 【小题3】 Learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness around you.

Try to see things from your offender’s angle (角度). If you understand your offender, you may realize that he or she was acting by chance. 【小题4】 The letter is from your offender’s point.

Don’t forget to forgive yourself. It is difficult for some people to forgive themselves. 【小题5】 But if you don’t do that, it can make you lose your self-confidence.