Dear Emma,
Your problem is like a circle. The harder you study, the less time you have to make friends and the less friendly you look to your classmates. The fewer friends you have, the harder you study to make yourself feel better.
Try to break this bad circle. Perhaps you are afraid of meeting new people, because you are too shy or too serious. You are not. Everyone has a fun side to his character. Push your shy side away and show your classmates how fun you can be.
Look at your classmates. Are there any people with whom you feel you have a lot in common?
First, smile at your classmates. Do this as often as you can, until your classmates become used to your smile and smile in return.
Next, talk to your classmates. Do this between classes or during your lunch break. You may find it easier to start by talking to people when they are alone.
Perhaps you could ask a classmate about your studies. They are likely to respond (回答) in a very positive (积极乐观的) way. People like to feel important and helpful.
There must be someone else in your class who is also quiet. It might be easier to try to talk with him or her. Your problem is mainly about confidence. Smile first, talk next and slowly you will make friends. Once you have more confidence, you can make as many friends as you want.
Editor
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The cause of Emma’s problem | |
Why the editor suggests Emma should talk to someone else in her class who is also quiet | Because |
What the editor mainly tells Emma about | How to |
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What you may find easier to do when they are alone | Start |