Dear Emma,
Your problem is like a circle. The harder you study, the less time you have to make friends and the less friendly you look to your classmates. The fewer friends you have, the harder you study to make yourself feel better.
Try to break this bad circle. Perhaps you are afraid of meeting new people, because you are too shy or too serious. You are not. Everyone has a fun side to his character. Push your shy side away and show your classmates how fun you can be.
Look at your classmates. Are there any people with whom you feel you have a lot in common?
First, smile at your classmates. Do this as often as you can, until your classmates become used to your smile and smile in return.
Next, talk to your classmates. Do this between classes or during your lunch break. You may find it easier to start by talking to people when they are alone.
Perhaps you could ask a classmate about your studies. They are likely to respond (回答) in a very positive (积极乐观的) way. People like to feel important and helpful.
There must be someone else in your class who is also quiet. It might be easier to try to talk with him or her. Your problem is mainly about confidence. Smile first, talk next and slowly you will make friends. Once you have more confidence, you can make as many friends as you want.
Editor
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| The cause of Emma’s problem | |
| Why the editor suggests Emma should talk to someone else in her class who is also quiet | Because |
| What the editor mainly tells Emma about | How to |
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| What you may find easier to do when they are alone | Start |
Have you been quite forgetful lately? Have you been worried? If you are worried about losing keys and forgetting names, here are some ways for you.
Find out your own learning style
We all have our own ways of learning and remembering. Some of us have to say something out loud to remember it; others may have to write it down. Whatever your learning style is, accept it and find out a way that will work with it, whether it is written/audio notes (音频笔记) or some other ways.
Repeat a lot
Do something many times, and it is possible for you to remember it.
Repeating can help you turn short-term memory into long-term memory. It can feel a little silly writing down everything, or saying something to yourself 10 times in order to get through your day, but if it’s necessary, then go ahead and do it.
Avoid unnecessary distractions (干扰)
With each day bringing fresh bad news, we have more distractions than ever before. However, there are many ways you can cut down the number of distractions.
The first one is trying to use your mobile phone less. Some studies show Internet use is making our attention last shorter and our memory worse. Although it’s almost impossible to keep away from the Internet, using your mobile phone less can help.
The second one is to avoid doing many things at the same time. It has also been shown to influence long-term memory.
Ways to Avoid Forgetfulness | |
| Find out your own learning style | ▲Both saying something loudly and writing down something can help you remember well. ▲ |
| ▲ ▲Although it sounds silly to repeat something to yourself 10 times a day, it’s necessary. | |
| Avoid unnecessary distractions | ▲Don’t use your mobile phone more, or it will make your attention ▲If you do many things at the same time, your long-term memory will |
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