Maybe sometimes you think your parents are too strict, but loving your parents is a normal and happy part of life. You love them because they brought you into this world and raised you. Here are some ways to get on well with your parents.

Tell them you love them every morning. A sweet “Good morning” and “I love you” will warm a cold heart. Remember that they brought you into this world. Respect (尊重) them more and value these moments. You can use these moments to learn from them.

Follow the family rules. It shows that you have a good attitude (态度) towards them and you can get more respect from them. You are feeling bad when you don’t get what you want. However, you had better remember they keep a roof over your head when it’s cold, raining, snowing, or too hot. Maybe you can’t do many things because of these rules. But think about it, there are a lot of things you still can do.

Stay with them more. Do things with your parents like watching TV, or going somewhere with them. Anyway, spend as much time with them as you can. Listen to their old stories and learn from them. You will find they are your teachers in this way.

Ask for help if necessary. If you are deeply troubled or find it hard to get on well with your parents, feel free to go for a therapy (治疗) and let the therapist cure your relationship (关系).

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Sometimes you might feel it impossible to get on with your parents. But in fact, it isn’t as difficult as you think. Follow these ways, and then you’ll improve your relationship with them.

Spend more time with your parents. Your parents won’t always be around, so try to spend more time with them. This doesn’t mean just sitting in front of the TV together. Instead, you should do more activities with your parents together. By doing them, all of you will feel happy and relaxed.

Talk with your parents more often. In order to understand them better, you should talk with them more often. Try to learn more about them. For example, you could ask them about their own childhood. In this way, you will understand them better.

Always listen to your parents. This may seem simple, but it’s often harder than you think. Look at your parents when they are talking. Don’t interrupt (打断) them, and then speak clearly when replying to them.

Share your feelings with your parents. Sometimes your parents also want to learn more about you. Just do your best to open your heart to them. When possible, talk to them about something at school or what you really want to be in the future.

Make your parents feel proud. There are always some ways to make your parents feel good about you. By working hard, you can do well in school or win prizes in games. They will think how lucky they are to have you and be more willing to talk about you in front of others.

Some people think only school children do not agree with their parents, however, it is not true.

Communication is a problem for parents and children of all ages. If it’s hard for you to communicate with your parents, don’t worry about it. Here is some advice for you to bridge the generation gap (消除代沟).

Don’t argue (争辩) with your parents. Don’t get to your parents when you are angry. Your parents probably won’t consider your ideas if you are shouting at them. And you can’t express yourself well if you are angry. Go someplace to cool off. Make sure you understand why you are unhappy. Then think about what you want to say to your parents. If you don’t think you can speak to them at the moment, try writing a letter.

Try to reach a compromise (和解). Perhaps you and your parents disagree on something. You can keep your disagreement and try your best to accept each other. Michael’s mother didn’t agree with him about buying a motorcycle. They argued over it. But they finally came to a compromise. Michael bought the motorcycle, but only drove it on certain days.

Of course, your parents might refuse to compromise on something. In these situations, it is especially important to show love and respect (尊敬) to them. Showing respect will keep your relationship strong.

Talk about your values. The values of your parents are probably different from those of your own. Tell your parents what you care about, and why. Understanding your values might help them see your purposes in life.

A good relationship with your parents can make you a better and happier person. It is worth having a try!