We do want help our family, friends and classmates when they’re having a hard time. But how can we help our people out in right ways?
Rachel Miller is a writer and she mentions some ways about that in her book How to Be There for Yourself and Your People.
Keep your focus on your friend.
When a friend comes to you, it’s a good idea to help them forget their terrible experience. But if you want to tell them a similar experience, it’s not always welcome.
If you do feel that your experience might be helpful to hear, Miller’s advice is to let your friend know that you went through something similar, but allow them to decide if they want to hear about it at the moment.
Ask how you can best help your friend.
You may not know what kind of help your friend wants. Just ask! Miller advises to try these questions:
“What’s the best way I can help you right now?”
“Do you need someone to talk to?”
“Would you like my advice?”
“How are you feeling about the hard experience you’re going through?”
A heartfelt “I’m sorry” is a great help.
People may shy away from saying “I’m sorry” to the people in trouble, because you cannot feel the same way as them. But Miller says a real, honest “I’m sorry” can help to make your friend feel heard and accepted. “Sometimes there isn’t a perfect way to make people feel better,” she says. “But what you need to do is to say ‘You’re not alone. I’m with you. I’m so sorry it’s happening to you.’”
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【小题2】If you don’t know what kind of help your friend wants, what can you do?
【小题3】What can make your friend feel heard and accepted?
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