Have you ever met someone who makes a noise in public or someone who jumps the queue? These people get our hearts beating fast and give us stress (压力). Anger isn’t a pleasant feeling. Some can control (控制) it, while others can’t. Both ways have influence (影响) on our bodies and minds. So, understanding our anger can help us express (表达) it more healthfully.

Anger makes people feel uncomfortable, but it’s normal and healthy. Unluckily, many of us keep our anger hidden. This can have long-term effects on our health. Experts find that people who overcontrol their anger live a shorter lifetime. They’re more likely to die earlier from diseases.

Is it better, then, to shout and show unhappiness whenever something makes us mad? In fact, a research shows that when we express anger overly, the intensity (强度) of the anger will be higher and we will get angry easily in the future. This will further influence our personal relationship and hurt our health. A study finds that people are more than twice as likely to have a heart problem after a strong expression of anger.     

Whether we overcontrol or overexpress anger, it will be unhealthy. But if we’re able to use some skills to manage anger, everything will be in our control.

Start by looking beyond what causes our anger. There are deep reasons behind it. Maybe our parents are angry with us when we are home late, but it’s really because they are worried about our safety.

Another way of dealing with anger is to talk about it. A study shows that if we name our feelings, we can actually calm our activity in amygdala, one part of our brain. Explaining it gives us a cool- down period, which makes us think about what’s troubling us. We can also free our anger by taking a deep breath and doing some physical activities.

Besides, when we face an angry person, there are good sides if we try to understand the other person’s anger. We should focus on his activity and why he troubles us, not his personality ( 性 格 ). Then the other person will learn to deal with anger.

Next time when we face anger, remember to make a change and you can always find a better way to understand and deal with it.

A great family party is a fantastic way to have fun with those you love. But most family parties fail (失败) because they are not planned enough. 【小题1】

Enough food is necessary to have a great party. 【小题2】 If you plan to have kids join the party, make sure you prepare some kids-friendly food. Sandwiches and bread are usually popular with kids.

Prepare some snacks. 【小题3】 Put a table outside with snacks on it.

【小题4】 You can plan group games that will make people talk to one another. This is important if you have guests who don’t know each other well. Some fun outdoor group games are volleyball and tennis.

A successful party can have flaws (缺点). 【小题5】 Relax and enjoy yourself. If you have enough food and fun games, your party will be a success!