Sometimes you might feel it impossible to get on with your parents. But in fact , it isn’t as difficult as you think. Follow these ways, and then you’ll improve your relationship with them.

Spend more time with your parents. Your parents won’t always be around, so try to spend more time with them. This doesn’t mean just sitting in front of the TV together. Instead, you should do more activities with your parents together. By doing them, all of you will feel happy and relaxed.

Talk with your parents more often. In order to understand them better, you should talk with them more often. Try to learn more about them. For example, you could ask them about their own childhood. In this way, you will understand them better,

Always listen to your parents. This may seem simple, but it’s often harder than you think. Look at your parents when they are talking. Don’t interrupt them, and then speak clearly when replying to them.

Share your feelings with your parents. Sometimes your parents also want to learn more about you. Just do your best to open your heart to them. When possible, talk to them about something at school or what you really want to be in the future.

Make your parents feel proud （自豪的）. There are always some ways to make your parents feel good about you. By working hard, you can do well at school or win prizes in games. They will think how lucky they are to have you and be more willing to talk about you in front of others.

Do you ever worry about not getting good enough grades? Do you often doubt your abilities to achieve success? Do you always pay much attention to what others think of you? Then you may have impostor syndrome (冒充者综合征). Researchers from Germany have recently found that this syndrome can happen to people regardless of (不管) age, sex or intelligence.

What is impostor syndrome?

Although it’s often called a “syndrome”, impostor syndrome is not a real illness—it’s a negative (消极的) way of thinking.

People who have experienced impostor syndrome might have ideas like “I’m a failure (失败者)” or “I have to work harder than everyone else”. They might also feel that their achievements aren’t worth praising. They believe any of their success is because of luck rather than their skills or hard work.

Impostor syndrome influences many people around the world, from teens to adults. It might surprise you that many successful people experience this as well.

How can impostor syndrome be overcome (克服)?

If you’re experiencing impostor syndrome, try these suggestions.

Learn to assess (评价) yourself correctly

Imes, a famous expert, says we should pay attention to your self-assessments, like writing down things you’re truly good at and areas you might need to work on. This can help you get to know areas where you have room for improvement and areas where you might have been overlooking (忽视) your success or abilities.

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There’s no good reason for you to compare to others. When you do, it’s easy to lose your way. Quite often, you don’t see the full picture of another person’s success. Even the Nobel Prize winner Anthony Leggett said, “I never learned basic knowledge of physics in high school, so I always couldn’t understand simple things like why the noise from a kettle (水壶) stops as the water nears boiling.”

It’s impossible for everyone to be good at everything. Next time you doubt your abilities, remember that it’s perfectly normal and you can work to overcome those feelings.