Over the years working as a psychologist, I have found that the following habits seem to be the most important for developing a happier, healthier mind,

When you create an expectation in your head—which is really just you imagining the thing you want to be true—it relieves some of that anxiety and uncertainty for the time being. But in reality, your expectations are merely fictions in your own mind.

Expectations have their place. 【小题3】 If you want a calmer and more peaceful mind, get into the habit of checking on your expectations regularly and make sure they aren’t too far outside of reality.

【小题4】When you’re too negative and particular about yourself, you turn normal embarrassment into intense shame; everyday depression into anger; ordinary sadness into desperation. If you want to start being kinder toward yourself, follow The Other Golden Rule: 【小题5】 The next time you feel bad, imagine that a good friend felt the same way and came to you for support and advice... What would you say to them?

How You Open Your Car Door Matters to Cyclists

The“Dutch reach”isn’t a new dance move or a random YouTube challenge. It’s a simple move that can help prevent harm to cyclists. And you might keep your car door safe in the process, too. 【小题1】

Typically, a person sitting in the driver’s seat of a car opens the door with the hand closest to it.   It makes sense since doors are designed to be opened that way. 【小题2】 But if you happen to do that at the wrong time, you may unknowingly create an obstacle for a passing cyclist. The cyclist might be knocked down off the bike. The car door is likely to be damaged by the fast-moving bicycle.

【小题3】 However, the car door design and long-time habits have made the process automatically. Luckily，there’s a simple way to solve the problem. Open your car door with your other hand，using the Dutch reach. So instead of using your left hand, reach for the door handle with your right. 【小题4】 At the very least, you’11 look into your side view mirror to check for any traffic.

The Dutch are used to opening their car doors this way. All Dutch are taught it. It’s part of regular driver education. The technique dates back about 50 or 60 years in the Netherlands. In 2016 an American named Michael Charney started the Dutch Reach Project. He wanted to popularize the practice in the United States. Charney’s efforts may be paying off. 【小题5】

Top Tips for Efficient E-mail Management

For many of us, email is an extremely important means of communication in business. 【小题1】. It allows us to do our jobs from almost anywhere. However, when used improperly, email can do harm to productivity. Here are some tips to better manage your email.

Set fixed email times

Don’t leave your email program open all day. Instead, schedule specific time throughout the day to check your email. 【小题2】. The amount of time it takes to check email and respond depends on how frequently you check messages and how many you typically receive.

Take immediate action

Quick decisions and immediate action will help you keep your email inbox (收件箱) under control. The point is not to delay until tomorrow what can be carried out immediately. Don’t let important emails sit in your inbox for days. If you can’t respond immediately, let the sender know you received the message and will be in touch shortly. 【小题3】.

Manage additional mailboxes

【小题4】? Many people manage various other mailboxes, especially assistants. Approximately 75 percent of assistants manage two or more of their managers’ inboxes in addition to their own. The key to effectively managing another person’s inbox is to discuss their expectations. The key here is to build routines, establish trust and also get permission.

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Newsletters and advertising emails can occupy your inbox and hide important messages. Therefore, be sure to clean up the mess. Unsubscribe (取消订阅) from receiving messages from specific senders if you no longer want to receive their advertising emails or have time to read them. To make the unsubscribe process quick and painless, search your inbox for the term “unsubscribe”.