How to Rebuild Trust in a Relationship

To repair a relationship can be difficult. Rebuilding trust in a relationship is more difficult. The biggest barrier to rebuilding trust is a lack of true desire to do so.【小题1】. Here’s some expert advice on what to do next.

Keep your conversation open. Although trust is defined differently by different people, yet to talk it out can help you find the common ground.【小题2】.

Let go of mistakes when it is possible.【小题3】. If two people have decided to move past a cheat, and one of them says something like “I’ll give you a second chance, but if you make a mistake, it’s over”, that can stop progress—it is difficult for them to develop confidence.

【小题4】. Exercise can improve your good mental health—endorphins (内啡肽) are released into the brain, which create a sense of peace, while your stress reduces.

It’s important to remember that trust rebuilding won’t happen immediately when it is broken. Don’t feel worried if you’re not feeling comfortable.【小题5】. Review your steps and do your share. You can just let nature take its course.

Selena Evans had been down for days because she had no idea how to please those two girls. At first, Elizabeth Moretz just wouldn’t hide her disdain (鄙视) for her. About a month ago, when Selena ran into her near a coffee shop, she called her name from afar. However, Elizabeth didn’t show any kindness; instead, she scolded her, “You scared the hell out of me”. To apologize, for several days in a row, Selena would buy some coffee and stand at the door of the cafe, waiting for Elizabeth to come, and then pass the coffee to her and say friendly, “This is for you!” But every time, Elizabeth would look at her doubtfully and then reject it.

But one day before a math class, Elizabeth sat down right next to her and said, “You know, I always speak out of turn without thinking. Sometimes it might hurt people. But you’ll realize I’m a good person soon. Please forgive my rudeness.” Then she passed her a cup of coffee, “This is for you.” Selena couldn’t believe it was happening. She took the coffee excitedly.

But soon she discovered she shouldn’t have been happy like that because the coffee wasn’t even for her. It was for Sara Crawford. Sara didn’t show up that day, so Elizabeth gave it to her instead.

Should I try to be one of a group where I don’t belong?

“No, I will spare no efforts to be their friend!”

The next day Selena went to the bakery and bought three loafs of bread, one for herself, one for Elizabeth and one for Sara. As she was walking to the cafe, she saw Elizabeth sitting at an outdoor table of the cafe, pouring some water from her thermos into a coffee cup. After that, she put the cup lid back really quickly and then looked around alertly.

Selena paused a little, and then called her loudly in the distance, “Morning!”

Following the sound, Elizabeth saw Selena. She put the thermos back into her pack really quickly and stood up with that coffee in her hand.

Selena ran to her and passed her a loaf of bread, “This is for you.”

“Oh, I…” Elizabeth waved her hand, “I don’t like bread.”

“Then, what do you like?” Before Selena could finish, Elizabeth had run away with that coffee.

Selena had been feeling down for two classes. The third class was lab course. She went to the Girls’ room before that and when she came back to the lab, Elizabeth walked to her with a cup of coffee. She dragged Selena, shoved the coffee into her hand and turned away.

Suddenly, she recalled what she had seen this morning, and was frozen there.

How can teenagers keep themselves from suffering from loneliness? Here are some suggestions for speeding a recovery from loneliness.

Reach out to others but start small. A smile and a friendly greeting for the student behind you in line at the cafeteria (餐厅) won’t make you best friends. 【小题1】 It also can make it easier to interact the next time.

Find a safe place to make connections. If going to the dancing party makes you feel like you just don’t belong, try joining a special-interest group. Maybe it’s the drama club or the marching band. 【小题2】

Find other ways of making connections. Lonely people hunger for friendship. Sometimes feeling accepted and liked comes more easily when you do something for others rather than waiting for them to make you feel better. 【小题3】 Help a child in reading. Take notes for a disabled classmate. You might be surprised at the connections you make.

【小题4】 Loneliness is an absence of quality friendship, not of a particular quantity of friends. That’s why it’s important to know how to select a friend.

You get what you expect, so expect the best. If you expect others to be friendly, you will behave in proper ways that encourage people to be friendlier to you. 【小题5】 But starting the first step of positive expectations can make all the difference.