You probably think of aggression in its most violent form i.e. shouting matches and fights. Actually, there are varying levels of aggression. There are times when you start to display aggression, but you are not aware of it yourself.【小题1】

●They believe their opinion is fact

For effective communication to take place it is important to be able to distinguish between opinion and fact.【小题2】But aggressive people take it one step further. They act as if their opinion is fact, which is telling others that their opinions are irrelevant(不相关的).

●It's all about how it affects them

When something goes wrong, or when considering potential consequences, aggressive people only consider how it influences them. The impact on others is irrelevant to them. 【小题3】I once knew a girl who, every time she had a quarrel with her boyfriend, used to wake her entire family up so she could tell them how she had been unjustly treated.

●Rapid speech

【小题4】They are determined to get their point across and have no desire to let the other person offer their input. They want total control of the conversation and are determined that the other person will hear what they have to say.

●Aggressive talking; defensive listening

This refers to the body language that they adopt when they are being aggressive.【小题5】They may point, spread feet apart with hands on the waist, etc. However, when the other person is speaking they will adopt a more defensive gesture e.g. crossing their arms.

Being familiar with these signs will help you to recognize the aggression quickly, and you will then be able to manage the situation more appropriately.

It is generally believed that people act the way they do because of their personalities and attitudes.They recycle their garbage because they care about the environment.They pay $5 for a caramel brulee latte because they like expensive coffee drinks.

It’s undeniable that behavior comes from our inner character,but in many instances we also draw inferences about who we are,as suggested by the social psychologist Daryl Bern.By observing our own behavior,we can be strangers to ourselves.If we knew our own minds,why would we need to guess what our preferences are from our behavior? If our minds were an open book,we would know exactly how much we care about the environment or like lattes.Actually,we often need to look to our behavior to figure out who we are.

Moreover,we don’t just use our behavior to learn about our particular types of character—we infer characters that weren’t there before.Our behavior is often shaped by little pressures around us,which we fail to recognize.Maybe we recycle because our wives and neighbors would disapprove if we didn’t.Maybe we buy lattes in order to impress the people around us.We should not mistakenly believe that we always behave as a result of some inner character.

Whatever pressures there can be or inferences one can make,people become what they do,though it may not be in compliance with their true desires.Therefore,we should all bear in mind Kurt Vonnegut’s advice:“We are what we pretend to be,so we must be careful about what we pretend to be.”

You might have ever noticed how some people can effortlessly talk to anyone they meet, no matter how different their backgrounds are. Or you may have seen that one person who always offends someone, no matter what the topic of conversation is. These two situations describe how we can differ in our abilities to interact, get along with, and relate to others around us. In the same way that we vary in traditional academic abilities, we can vary in how socially qualified we are. After years of academic research and development, this social ability is now commonly referred to as “social intelligence. ”

Social intelligence is the ability to understand other people, how they work, what motivates them, and how to work cooperatively with them. It is a relationship-based concept that centers on the way we understand others, interact with others, and present ourselves to others. As an example, you would not speak in the same way toward your 70-year-old mother as you would to your 16-year-old daughter. In our working lives, we come across different social groups including those from different countries, varying age groups and cultural identities. Being able to acknowledge and understand people’s different backgrounds is a key way to connect with them.

Our ability to navigate successfully through our lives relies heavily on our levels of social intelligence. It can affect the relationships we form with our partners and children, the friendship circles that we build, and our ability to progress in our careers and ambitions. Given the importance of social intelligence in multiple aspects of life, it is therefore in our best interest to better understand the concept of social intelligence.