Mother of all relationships should not be overbearing
When a controlling mother finds that her rebellious son wants to free himself from her clutches and start his own life, what happens? Well, she might just lose it and swallow him.
This happened in Bao, the Chinese-centric film that claimed Best Animated Short at the 9lst Oscar Awards. Directed by China-born Canadian director Domee Shi, Bao tells the story of a Chinese steamed bun, or baozi, that comes to life and cries like a baby just before a woman is about to eat it. The lonely Chinese housewife, whose husband is always busy with work, regards the baby baozi as her substitute son. As time passes, it grows up and decides to leave home with its blonde girlfriend. That’s exactly when the controlling mom swallows it up whole out of frustration.
The short film actually reflects the condition of the director herself and of most Chinese families.
In China, "widow-style childcare" describes many Chinese mothers’ ending in recent years. The term describes a bitter social reality: Once the child is born, the father disappears. He would work, drink all night, or do anything except help his wife take care of their child. As a result, the mother would throw herself completely into raising the child, without having a life of her own. She needs to know where her child is every moment, what he or she is doing whenever possible— even if the child has attained adulthood. She can be bossy, anxious and seemingly unreasonable. She represents many Chinese mothers of today.
Believe me, such an unnatural relationship can harm both mother and child. When one grows up, he or she may find it difficult to fit in with society. As for the mother, she would feel lonely as long as her child is not around, which may lead to depression and other psychological problems.
Then what is the best model for mothers and children to get along? I’d proudly introduce my mom. When I was a child, she cared for my safety, studies and daily life like every other mother. But her love wouldn’t drown me. After I grew up and went to college, she wouldn’t interfere in my life—because she had already taught me to distinguish good from bad. I don’t need to worry about her as she has her own life—loves yoga, cooking, and even started to learn English when she was 40. Now she hangs out with her foreign friends from time to time just like teenagers.
I believe this is a healthy mother-child relationship—as the two are independent individuals. Indeed, the mother needs to take care of her child. But instead of providing the fish, it is more important to teach one how to fish. Thus when the child grows up, both have their own life, and do not become attached to each other. A mother is not supposed to control her child for life. By doing so, she would only be pushing her son or daughter away from her because nobody wants to live in a prison made of love.
But the film has a happy ending. The woman finds that it was only a nightmare. I do hope that all mothers who lean too heavily on their children wake up from this dream, so that they would live happily ever after.
In the movie: Bao | the father | He |
the mother | She regards baozi as her substitute son. | |
the end | The frustrated mother swallowed up baozi. Luckily, it is nothing but a | |
In | the father | He tends to be |
the mother | She | |
The possible harms | for the child | It will be difficult for the child to get |
for the mother | When the child is not around, | |
Conclusion | Mothers and children should have their |
When parents discover their children have lied to them for the first time, it can often come as a shock to find their children are capable of such a trick. But new research has suggested many parents may not even notice many of the lies their children tell them.
Psychologists have discovered that most parents are overconfident about their children’s honesty and this may impair their ability to discover a lie. The findings may help to explain why some parents seem to be willing to let their children get away with almost anything even in the face of evidence. They say parents suffer from a “truth bias (偏见)” with their own youngsters, but when faced with lies from other people’s children, they have less difficulty telling whether a statement is true or not.
Dr Angela Evans, a psychologist at Brock University in Canada, said, “The close relationship that parents share with their own children may lead to parents’ failing to detect their children’s lies. Parents’ truth bias may result in parents’ being less doubtful about their children, allowing the children to successfully cheat them.” Most children are thought to start lying as early as two years old but start telling more believable lies at around the age of four years old. Learning how to lie is considered as a key part of cognitive (认知的) and social development in children. But many parents are shocked when their children start lying to them. In their study, Dr Evans and her colleagues filmed 108 children aged between 8 and 16 as they performed a test after being asked not to look at the answers. They were asked afterwards if they had looked, with 50 truthfully denying looking, 49 lying about looking and 9 admitting to looking.
Videos of those denying looking were then shown to 152 parents of children aged 8 to 16, 80 of whom had children who had taken part in the test. The researchers found that the parents were less able to spot lies told by their own children than by other people’s children.
【小题1】What does the underlined word “impair” in Paragraph 2 mean?A.Show. | B.Develop. | C.Damage. | D.Recognize. |
A.They aren’t prepared for the lies. |
B.They pretend not to discover the lies. |
C.Their children know how to lie to them. |
D.Their children are very good at hiding their lies. |
A.What makes parents lose trust in their children. |
B.What causes children to tell lies to their parents. |
C.What affects children’s relations with their parents. |
D.What makes parents fail to detect their children’s lies. |
A.Parents tend to protect their own children. |
B.Lying is a part of children’s development. |
C.Children aged 8 to 16 are likely to tell lies. |
D.Parents can judge lies told by children of others more easily. |
When I was little, my dad would let me sit beside him on the porch while he painted. He would tell me how the cow by itself is just a cow, and the meadow by itself is just grass and flowers, and the sun peeking through the trees is just a beam of light, but put them all together and you’ve got magic.
I understood what he was saying, but I’ve never felt what he was saying until one day when I was up in the sycamore tree to rescue a kite stuck in the branches. It was a long way up, but I thought I’d give it a shot. I started climbing. Then I looked down. And suddenly I got dizzy and weak. I was miles off the ground! But the kite was still beyond my reach. I caught my breath and forced myself to concentrate on the kite as I climbed up.
When I had the kite free, I needed a minute to rest. That’s when the fear of being up so high began to lift, and in its place came the most amazing feeling that I was flying. Just soaring above the earth, sailing among the clouds.
Then I began to notice how wonderful the breeze (微风) smelled. It seemed like sunshine and wild grass and rain! I couldn’t stop breathing it in, filling my lungs again and again with the sweetest smell I’d ever known.
I never got over the view. I kept thinking of what it felt like to be up so high in that tree. I wanted to see it, to feel it, again. And again.
It wasn’t long before I wasn’t afraid of being up so high and found the spot that became my spot. I could sit there for hours, just looking out at the world. Sunsets were amazing. Some days they’d be purple and pink, some days they’d be an orange, setting fire to clouds across the horizon.
It was on a day like that when my father’s notion (观念) moved from my head to my heart. The view from my tree was more than rooftops and clouds and wind and colors combined.
And I started marveling (惊奇) at how I was feeling both humble and majestic. How was that possible? How could I be so full of peace and full of wonder?
It was magic.
【小题1】Why did the author climb up the sycamore tree?A.To play in the tree. |
B.To get a trapped kite. |
C.To prove her courage. |
D.To practice climbing skills. |
A.Flying high. |
B.Shouting aloud. |
C.Singing happily. |
D.Moving quietly. |
A.unusual but painful |
B.adventurous but rewarding |
C.competitive and imaginative |
D.well-planned and interesting |
A.Because the tree had the sweetest smell. |
B.Because it could help her to concentrate. |
C.Because her father encouraged her to do so. |
D.Because she could enjoy more than good views. |
A.Practice makes perfect. |
B.Positive action leads to happiness. |
C.Beautiful things don’t ask for attention. |
D.The whole is greater than the sum of its parts. |
Maybe you often have arguments with your parents about clothes, homework, friends and many other personal things.
As a family member, you should find out what it really means when your parents fight. When your parents get upset with each other, they might cry or say things they don’t really mean. Most people lose their cool now and then, so if your parents are fighting, don’t worry too much about it.
If your parents’ fight really bothers you, you might find it hard to sleep or go to school.
Just remember that no family is perfect and arguments are common in every family.
A.Parents may apologize and make up and the family gets back into its usual way. |
B.But what’s going on when your parents fight with each other? |
C.You should never argue with your parents. |
D.Parents might fight about small things. |
E.If this happens, try talking with one or both of your parents about their behavior. |
F.Actually, it is natural for parents to disagree and argue every now and then. |
G.Make efforts to find a good way to solve it. |
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