Many of us have become so reliant(依赖的) on our smartphones that we use them to carry out unbelievable 221 tasks every day.

A study of 2,000 smartphone owners shows that the average user reaches for their phone at 7:31 am each morning, to check personal emails and Facebook. And before they’ve even got out of bed, most of them check the weather, read the news, and send a text or two to friends. It also appeared that people will check the train times, do their banking and update what they want early in the day.

In an average week, the research discovered that users pick up their phone more than 1,500 times to complete different tasks from emails to playing games and posting to social media. And the average smartphone user is on their phone for three hours and sixteen minutes a day. This amounts to almost one full day a week using their phone, so it’s no wonder almost four in ten users admitted feeling lost without their tool.

Many owners also admitted to finding themselves using their phone without realizing they’re doing so, with two thirds saying they have managed to log in(登录) and browse(浏览) Facebook without thinking. And surprisingly, four in ten said they have, at one time or another, checked their emails automatically(自动的) without thinking.

The study has also showed that our smartphones are now becoming more of a “go-to-gadget”, replacing desktops and laptops, which people only turn to for, on average, 140 tasks in a typical day.

Nowadays, more people feel depressed because they do not see themselves as happy. Instead, they feel guilty that they aren't as happy as everyone says they should be. 【小题1】 .

The books, blogs, You Tube videos and advice columns will tell you if you imagine, exercise write journals, stay busy, help others, eat healthy, read every day, then you too can be happy.

The simple truth is that no one can be happy all the time. 【小题2】 . This middle ground is a good place mentally and emotionally，and spending time there is a healthy choice.

【小题3】. When you are in that place, the stuff of life can be going on around you ,but you don't need to allow it to bother you.

I find contentment in walks, writing and talking with my partner and reminding each other that our life is good, despite difficult or scary moment. I can soften my reactions and respond differently. 【小题4】 .

Even though things around me now are a little out of control, I understand such is life. 【小题5】 because I'm actively living my purpose. I am now content and that feeling will last the whole day through. You can do the same.

When we first gave our daughters (then 13 and 15 years old) cell phones for emergencies, we made them sign an agreement in which we strictly ruled where and when they could use their phones and even we could check their every text message. However, in less than a year, we lost control of the situation.

There is a terrible reality that almost every teenager sends between 50 to 100 messages a day - some as many as 300, and 70% of teenagers admit hiding their online behavior from parents. According to a study, teenagers need as much sleep or more than they get as children - that's between 9 and 10 hours of sleep a night, but only 20% of them are getting it. When they don't get enough sleep, they perform poorly in school, feel very hungry, are more likely to have flu and are very emotional.

Recently, we adopted a "check in at tuck in" (盖被子时交手机) rule at our house, an idea I learnt from a parenting expert. It is very simple. At bedtime, when we "tuck in" our children for the night, they must "check in" their phones. They will probably bargain like this:

"But I use it for my alarm clock."

"I'll wake you up."

"My friends might need me."

"If there is an emergency, they can call the fixed phone and I'll wake you up."

A few weeks ago, when I drove my younger daughter to a friend's house for a sleepover, she handed me her phone. "I guess I should check this in now, since you won't be there to tuck me in tonight. I'll call you from Ellie's phone if I need you."