Do you want to hurt the person back, or do you hold it against them for the rest of your life when somebody hurts you? If you answered “yes” to these questions, know that you are like most people. To forgive is something that most people generally have difficulty with.
People don’t forgive readily, because it is easier to hate than to forgive. Some people thing to forgive is a sign of weakness, but actually to forgive takes courage and effort.
Forgiveness is a gift from a generous heart. It is not a reward for good behavior. It is not based on whether the person deserves it or whether the person has asked for it.
Besides, forgiveness is an act and a process, which often takes time. The deeper your pan, the longer it usually takes to completely forgive. It is an act because it is not just the words you say, but also your actions which show if you’ve truly forgiven someone.
Forgiveness is necessary because it releases you from the burden of bitterness and hate. It takes a lot of energy to hate and to keep that hate in place. Hate puts unnecessary stress on your body. It is a well-known fact, proven by numerous studies, that bitterness and hate can actually make you sick. The moment that affected people forgive and let go of their hate, they will start to get well. Forgiveness brings freedom, whereas revenge is neither sweet nor satisfying.
I have personal experience of this. I used to be very cynical about life and didn’t forgive easily. At the time, I also struggled in every area of my life. Things just didn’t seem to work out for me. It is as if everything that could go wrong. Always went wrong. That was until somebody told me to take a look at my attitude. And when I forgave those who wronged me and changed my attitude, everything else changed. It didn’t happen overnight. It took a while, but I could see and feel the difference.
Are things not working out in your life, despite you doing all the “right” things? Is it possible that you are holding “unforgiving” in your heart? It is worth thinking about. By Leonard J. Roost.
【小题1】Why is it hard for people to forgive?| A．Forgiveness means not giving in. |
| B．Forgiveness depends on good behavior. |
| C．Forgiveness needs good will from both sides. |
| D．Forgiveness requires courage and generosity. |
| A．Not believing the goodness of others. |
| B．Making comments on others. |
| C．Showing kindness to others. |
| D．Not liking talking with others. |
| A．Hate may actually cause illness. |
| B．Revenge helps to reduce the hate in your heart. |
| C．When you feel sick, it makes it difficult to hate. |
| D．Hate goes away when you say you will forgive. |
A． | B． |
C． | D． |
