One of my clients (客户) recently revealed that his wife was of the opinion that he shouldn’t hire a coach to help him create a more _________ life; he should be able to do it by himself.

Has anyone ever said something _________ to you? Or perhaps you have said it to yourself? When I talk to people about making changes in their life, they would _________ say something like “but shouldn’t I do this _________ ?

However, the opposite is _________ . The most successful people get as much help as they need to _________ their goal. Take Ellen MacArthur for example, the fastest female and youngest sailor to race around the world solo, non-stop. While she _________ around the world by herself, she also had advisors, trainers, sponsors, and a support team to help her. She once said, “It’s always been about a _________ , so I have to thank my partners, friends, and supporters. _________ them, I would be nowhere.”

Many people __________ that “if you have help to achieve something then it __________that achievement”. It is a common __________, however, and one that I would __________you to stay away from. So next time you hear a phrase like “you should do it on your own”, either from someone else or in your head, __________ yourself immediately that it is not helpful and focus on __________ the help you need to get to where you want to go.

An American businessman who travelled in southern Mexico met with one young Mexican fisherman rowing a small boat at the dock (码头).

Inside the boat were several large_______. Enjoying the warmth of the sun, the American_______the Mexican for the quality of his fish. He thought they must bring the Mexican lots of money.

“How long did it take you to_______ them?” the American asked.

“Oh, a few hours,” the Mexican fisherman________.

“Why don’t you________ longer and catch more fish?” the businessman then asked.

The Mexican answered, “With these fish I have more than enough to________ my family.”

The businessman then became _______, “But what do you do with the rest of your  ________?”

With a smile, the fisherman answered, “I_______ with my children, watch ballgames, see my friends, sing songs ...”

The American businessman cut in, “Look, I have an MBA, and I can help you _______more money. You can start by fishing several hours longer every day. You can then sell the______fish you catch. With the money, you can buy a bigger boat, then a third one, and so on, ________ you have an entire fleet (船队) of fishing boats. You could leave your village and move to a big city, where you could even further_____your business. Finally, you’ll be able to set up your company and become very______. What do you think?”

Having never______such things, the Mexican fisherman asked, “Really?________would I do with it all?”

The businessman said proudly, “Then you could______retire (退休) with all the money. You could_______ to your peaceful fishing village where you could play with your grandchildren, and watch ballgames. And you could _______ your friends often and sing with them.”

The story tells us: Know what really matters in life, and you may find that it is already much_______ than you think.

The email hit me like a punch in the gut. It came from my ________ and when I saw it had several paragraphs, I frowned. Quickly scanning for the vocabulary of bad news, I discovered words like “________”, “I’m sorry”, and “end”. Sure enough, my column—Science Careers was being canceled.

But despite my________ shock, I wasn’t as sad or mad or ________ as I might have been in the past. Previously, when I have been ________, I embodied (表现) the loss by ragging on and thinking________ about myself: “They” don’t value me because I don’t have value. And indeed, when I got the message about the________, my instinct was to immediately blame myself, dumping me into the familiar hopeless desert of ________.

But then, I surprised myself by quickly ________ to a new mindset. It wasn’t actually a failure, was it? Instead of letting the disappointing news start________, I was able to take a positive ________.I set out to make this not the day I was fired, but the day I was fired up and________to move my career to the next level.

Sometimes life sucks and things happen, and we cannot ________.Business decisions often impact our careers and yet have very little to do with our outputs. This decision wasn’t a ________ of me and my value. So when I heard that the column was a ________, I knew I was going to grow.