Everyone experiences unhappy times on occasion, but there is a big difference between experiencing a short time of sadness and living an unhappy life. Here are some of the things that lead to an unhappy life and how to deal with them.

Only being a dreamer

Dream your dream, but also realize that you are more than just a dreamer. 【小题1】 But to achieve it, you must break out of your present comfort zone and become comfortable with the unfamiliar.

Continuous self doubt

Don’t spend all your time saying, “I’m not smart enough, thin enough or rich enough.” 【小题2】

Obsession (迷恋) with control

Learn to let go of control, relax and ride the path that life takes you. Try something new, take a chance, but above all, smile and enjoy the scenery.

Setting unrealistic expectations

You’re going to make mistakes every now and then. You’re a human being. 【小题3】 But making them is also how you grow.

Slacking (松懈) on exercise

【小题4】 The truth is you don’t have time not to, or sooner or later you’ll be making time for illness.

Overindulgence (过分放纵) of a good thing

Eating too much makes you fat. 【小题5】 Playing too much leaves important work undone and so on.

Eating out is such a pleasure ― the food, the wine, the joy of having it all brought to you by someone else ― that it’s a pity to ruin the experience by sharing it with other people.

Well, I do like visiting restaurants with friends. But dining out alone has its own very special attractions. For a start you can give all your attention to the food. There’s nothing worse than having to invent and deliver an opinion on school league tables or Sanchez’s move to Manchester United, plus listen to everyone else’s opinions, when all you really want to do is enjoy each mouthful along the way.

A second great thing about eating out alone is the chance to combine food with one of life’s other true pleasures: reading. You have to plan this carefully: Indian or Chinese restaurants are best ― you need food you can eat with just one hand, leaving the other free to hold your reading material.

But perhaps the biggest attraction of a table for one is the chance it gives to people-watching. Restaurants and the different reasons for visiting them ― first date, business meeting, night out with friends ― produce human behaviour of surprising richness and variety. Will the man selling his business idea get any joy out of his possible investor(投资者)? Will the married couple think of anything to say to each other before their main courses arrive?

This “human zoo” part of eating out alone is one of the reasons I’d hate to be famous: everyone would be watching you, so you wouldn’t be able to watch them. The snooker player Steve Davis says this was one of the strangest consequences(后果) of becoming well-known: he got very worried about his eating in public, almost to the level of doubting whether he was “doing it right.”

So next time you’re considering your eating out choices, remember the advice of the businessman Nubar Gulbenkian: “The best number for a dinner party is two ― myself and a super head waiter.”