When asked about happiness, we usually think of something extraordinary, an absolute delight, which seems to get rarer as we get older.
For kids, happiness has a magical quality: Their delight at winning a race or getting a new bike is unreserved (毫不掩饰的).
In the teenage years, the concept of happiness changes. Suddenly it’s conditional on such things as excitement, love and popularity. I can still recall the excitement of being invited to dance with the most attractive boy at the school party.
In adulthood the things that bring deep joy-love, marriage, birth-also bring responsibility and the risk of loss. For adults, happiness is complicated (复杂的).
My definition of happiness is “the capacity for enjoyment”. The more we can enjoy what we have, the happier we are. It’s easy to overlook(忽视) the pleasure we get from the company of friends, the freedom to live where we please, and even good health.
I experienced my little moments of pleasure yesterday. First I was overjoyed when I shut the last lunchbox and had the house to myself. Then I spent an uninterrupted morning writing, which I love. When the kids and my husband came home, I enjoyed their noise after the quiet of the day.
Psychologists tell us that to be happy we need a mix of enjoyable leisure time and satisfying work. I don’t think that my grandmother, who raised 14 children,had much of either. She did have a network of close friends and family, and maybe this is what satisfied her most.
We, however, with so many choices and such pressure to succeed in every area, have turned happiness into one more thing we’ve got to have. We’re so self-conscious about our “right” to it that it’s making us miserable. So we chase it and equal it with wealth and success, without noticing that the people who have those things aren’t necessarily happier.
Happiness isn’t about what happens to us-it’s about how we see what happens to us. It’s the skillful way of finding a positive for every negative. It’s not wishing for what we don’t have, but enjoying what we do possess.
【小题1】As people grow older, they _____ .A.care less about their happiness |
B.feel it harder to experience happiness |
C.will take fewer risks in pursuing happiness |
D.tend to believe responsibility means happiness |
A.She cares little about her own health |
B.She enjoys the freedom of traveling |
C.She prefers getting pleasure from housework |
D.She is easily pleased by things in daily life |
A.stress their right to happiness too much |
B.consider pressure something blocking their way |
C.are at a loss to make correct choices |
D.are more likely to be happy |
A.Happiness lies in wealth | B.Each man is the servant of his own fate |
C.Happy is he who is content | D.Success leads to happiness |
Researchers in the psychology department at the University of California at Los Angeles (UCLA) have discovered a major difference in the way men and women respond to stress. This difference may explain why men are more likely to suffer from stress related disorders.
Until now, psychological research has maintained that both men and women have the same“fight or flight”reaction to stress. However, the UCLA research team found that men and women have quite different biological and behavioral responses to stress. While men often react to stress in the fight or flight response, women often have another kind of reaction which could be called “tend and be friend.” That is, they often react to stressful conditions by protecting and nurturing their young (“tend”), and by looking for social contact and support from others—especially other females (“befriend”).
Scientists have long known that in the fight to stress, an important role is played by certain hormones (激素) released by the body. The UCLA research team suggests that the female tend or be friend response is also based on a hormone, whose name is oxytocin (催产素). But now it is being studied for its role in the response of both men and women to stress. According to the principal investigator, Dr. Shelley Taylor, “Animals and people with high levels of oxytocin are calmer, more relaxed, more social, and less anxious. While men also secrete (分泌) oxytocin, its effects are reduced by male hormones.”
The study also showed how fathers and mothers responded differently when they came home to their family after a stressful day at work. The typical father wanted to be left alone to enjoy some peace and quiet. For a typical mother, coping with a bad day at work meant focusing her attention on her children and their needs.
The differences in responding to stress may explain the fact that women have lower frequency of stress related disorders such as high blood pressure or aggressive behavior. The tend and befriend regulatory (调节的) system may protect women against stress, and this may explain why women on average live longer than men.
【小题1】The UCLA study shows that in response to stress, men are more likely than women to .A.solve a conflict calmly | B.seek comfort from children |
C.turn to friends for some help | D.find an escape from the reality |
A.Men have the same level of oxytocin as women do. |
B.Oxytocin used to be studied in both men and women. |
C.Oxytocin has more of an effect on women than on men. |
D.Both animals and people have the high levels of oxytocin. |
A.Male hormones help build up the body’s resistance to stress. |
B.Biological differences lead to different behavioral reacts to stress. |
C.In a family a mother cares more about children than a father does. |
D.UCLA study was designed to confirm previous research findings. |
A.How men and women manage to get over stress |
B.How men and women suffer from different stress |
C.How researchers overcome major stress problems |
D.How researchers deal with stress related disorders |
How to Learn from Your Regrets
Regret’s benefits don’t come to us by chance.
Kill the ghost (鬼魂).
People often say their regrets keep coming to their mind. This suggests that regret is like a ghost. Bring your ghost out of the shadows by making a list of your regrets. Write down why each one still bothers you and its bad effects.
Forgive yourself.
Collect your diploma.
Regret is like a school run by human nature. If you never experienced regret, you would keep repeating the same behaviors that led you to miss opportunities.
Regrets may hurt.
A.After you make a mistake, life moves on |
B.Filling your mind with them is destructive |
C.The ghost certainly doesn’t rule a person’s life |
D.We have to seek them out on purpose to improve ourselves |
E.You will find that a list is a lot less frightening than a ghost |
F.You choose a life sentence for a poor decision you made in the past |
G.If you let regret teach, you can note how you want to change your behavior |
You wake up in the morning, the day is beautiful and the plans for the day are what you have been looking forward to for a long time. Then the telephone rings,you say hello,and the drama starts.The person on the other end has a depressing tone in his voice as he starts to tell you how terrible his morning is and that there is nothing to look forward to.You are still in a wonderful mood?Impossible!
Communicating with negative people can wash out your happiness. It may not change what you think, but communicating long enough with them will make you feel depressed for a moment or a long time.
Life brings ups and downs,but some people are stuck in the wrong idea that life has no happiness to offer. They only feel glad when they make others feel bad. No wonder they can hardly win others' pity or respect.
When you communicate with positive people, your spirit stays happy and therefore more positive things are attracted. When the dagger(匕首)of a negative person is put in you, you feel the heavy feeling that all in all, brings you down.
Sometimes we have no choice but to communicate with negative people. This could be a coworker, or a relative. In this case, say what needs to be said as little as possible. Sometimes it feels good to let out your anger back to the negative person, but all this does is to lower you to that same negative level and they won’t feel ashamed of themselves about that.
Negativity often affects happiness without even being realized. The negative words of another at the start of the day can cling to(附着)you throughout the rest of your day, which makes you feel bad and steals your happiness. Life is too short to feel negative. Stay positive and avoid negativity as much as possible.
【小题1】The purpose of the first paragraph is to______.A.make a comparison |
B.offer an evidence |
C.introduce a topic |
D.describe a daily scene |
A.By influencing our emotion. |
B.By telling us the nature of life. |
C.By changing our way of thinking. |
D.By comparing their attitude to life with ours. |
A.other people's pity for them |
B.making other people unhappy |
C.building up a positive attitude |
D.other people’s respect for them |
A.to change negative people’s attitude to life |
B.to show our dissatisfaction to negative people |
C.to make negative people feel ashamed of themselves |
D.to communicate with negative people as little as possible |
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