It’s tough to feel as though you’re being taken for granted. After all, helping a friend move or making a special dinner for your loved ones takes much time and energy.

And when people don’t notice, you might feel as though you’re unappreciated.【小题1】Fortunately, these strategies can help you feel better.

Look for appreciation through actions. If someone doesn’t say, “Thank you,” that doesn’t mean they don’t appreciate you. Not everyone uses words to express their gratitude.【小题2】That hug your partner gives you might be their way of saying thanks. Similarly, when your friend insists on paying for your coffee, they may be communicating their appreciation to you.

Focus on what you’re gaining outside of appreciation.【小题3】 Your boss might think your token (表示) of appreciation is your paycheck. While it’s still nice to receive some praise, reminding yourself that you get paid every week might help you feel a little more appreciated.

Show appreciation toward others. Saying thank you to those around you can inspire others to appreciate you too. You might show your appreciation with a verbal thank you, or you might send them a note reminding them how much you appreciate them.【小题4】

【小题5】Sometimes, it’s helpful to share your feelings by saying something like,“ Sometimes, I feel like my work goes unnoticed. I really enjoy it when my work is appreciated.” Don’t be afraid to speak out what you want. You might discover others are happy to show more appreciation when they understand how important it is to you.

An obstacle usually refers to a difficulty or problem that prevents you from achieving something. Whether it was in your past, or you’re presently facing an obstacle, you have to resolve it. Some people avoid obstacles or deny their existence. Others let obstacles control them, and they feel defeated. Your attitude towards obstacles will define the outcome of whether you rise from the challenge, or remain stuck in it. Here are some more great things to love about obstacles.

First, obstacles give you purposes. Sometimes obstacles can reset your goals. You might have always had a particular way of doing things, or wanted to pursue certain goals; but when you’re faced with setbacks or difficulties, you’re forced to re-think, and re-examine your path. You may end up focusing on something new and exciting. Or, you may concentrate on something that you otherwise wouldn’t have if not for the particular setback. By having to overcome an obstacle, you’ll be fulfilling a purpose, rather than just going through the motions. Second, obstacles prepare you for the unexpected. Obstacles serve as guides for where to go next. Even though obstacles can bring out many negative emotions in us, such as frustration, anger, or sadness, it’s important to realize that they don’t stop you from reaching your intended goals. Instead, they, in a way, give you time to stop and think if perhaps there is a new and better path to take and what you can prepare for what will happen along the way. Obstacles shift your perspective.

Obstacles whether you like them or not are unavoidable. Life will never stop throwing you new obstacles. So, the best thing to do is know how to better see and address these obstacles, and transform them into opportunities for self-improvement. The more you’re able to see obstacles as being an advantage to your life, the better you’ll be at managing them.

Accepting obstacles will be rewarding. It will make you constantly change and adapt to new situations, allowing you to grow into a better version of yourself.

Would you like the chance to discover a place of mystery and beauty in the south-west of China? 【小题1】

How to get there?

Start in the city of Dali and drive north along the Yunnan-Tibet Highway until you reach Zhongdian (Shangri-la), the capital of Diqing. Zhongdian is 659 kilomters away from Kunming, and there are regular flights between the two cities.

The world famous Chinese Shangri-la.

The word 'Shangri-la' first appeared in a classic novel by James Hilton. Today, Shangri-la has become a common English word meaning heaven on earth. Hilton described a beautiful kingdom where three rivers joined together, steep mountains reached to the sky, and fields of long grass covered the earth. In this perfect world lived people who had discovered how to stay young forever.

Which place could officially take the name of this wonderful land? 【小题2】 Many years after the book was published, some people realized that the Shangri-la of the novel was a perfect match for Zhongdian in Yunnan Province, China. In September 1997, the government of Yunnan Province announced that Zhongdian was the Shangri-la of Hilton's story.

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Three mountains, Meli, Baimang and Haba, which are covered with snow, tower over the land. Their snowy mountaintops form a beautiful picture that will leave you at a loss for words.

Below the mountain, the sunshine reflects on the many lakes, making them shine like diamonds against the rich countryside. Sheep, cattle and horses wander on the green grass, and the surrounding forests are home to many birds and animals. 【小题4】Nature has provided Shangri-la with endless natural treasures, making the land a happy home for the local people.     

What is the weather like?

【小题5】 The best times to visit Shangri-la are spring and autumn when the temperature is at its mildest.