There’s no doubt that loneliness hurts. Functional MRIs show that the area of the brain triggered by social rejection is the same area that’s triggered by physical pain. To understand why loneliness hurts, let’s take a closer look at friendship through the eyes of two heavyweight philosophers.
In one corner we have Aristotle, who wrote that without friends, there’s no reason to live. The Greek great believed that friendships are based on the virtues of the friend.
So as a sharp counterpunch to Aristotle, let’s turn to the renowned Enlightenment philosopher Immanuel Kant, who said that all people have value regardless of their virtues. Since we view our true friends with this kind of unconditional love and respect, we can assume they view us the same way.
A.This may sound fine at first. |
B.They last through thick and thin. |
C.This tells us why loneliness hurts. |
D.These acts may not make you a lifelong friend. |
E.The more friends you have, the happier you’ll be. |
F.We feel like we’re not accepted by the people around us. |
G.Thus, the cure for loneliness can be found in other people. |
You may have grown up living with lots of siblings, or this may be your first time sharing your living space with someone else.
Be clear about your expectations from the beginning. Do you know in advance that you hate it when someone hits the snooze button (贪睡闹铃) fifteen times every morning? That you’re a neat freak (怪人)? That you need ten minutes to yourself before talking to anyone after you wake up?
Address problems when they’re little. Is your roommate always forgetting her things for the shower, and taking yours?
Be mindful of who you bring into your room-and how often.
A.Be open to new ideas and experiences. |
B.Respect all the things that belong to your roommate. |
C.You may love having your study group into your room. |
D.Expect to learn, grow and change during the time in the college. |
E.Are your clothes being borrowed faster than you can wash them? |
F.Let your roommate know as soon as you can about your little preferences. |
G.Having a roommate can be both a challenge and a great part of your college experience. |
Living with other people can be difficult, especially when each person has their own ideas about how they want to live.
Discuss your expectations ahead of time.
Divide responsibilities.
Make a plan to divide up responsibilities and chores(家常杂务)between you and your roommate. For example, if your roommate is a good cook and you are not,
Not everyone has the same ideas about day to day living as you do. Take your roommate’s feelings into consideration. For instance, if you are dying to throw a party on Thursday night but your roommate has a final early the next morning, agree to postpone the party till Friday evening, instead.
Communicate effectively.
Communication is key in making the relationship work. If a problem comes up, it’s better to talk about it right away than to ignore it. For example, say “Chris, it upsets me when I wake up to find all the milk gone. If you use the last of something, can you please add it to the list?” If you simply cannot communicate openly and there is tension all the time,
A.Be prepared to compromise |
B.Create a roommate agreement on Internet use |
C.ask him or her to cook if you’ll clean up afterward |
D.you may as well find a new roommate |
E.Though having a roommate can be challenging, it can also be enjoyable and fun from the other |
F.People may have different religious or political views that could cause conflict |
G.Talk about what each of you needs and wants in advance |
Life is filled with challenges. As we get older, we come to realize that those challenges are the very things that shape us and make us who we are. It is the same with the challenges that come with friendship. When we are faced with a challenge, we usually have two choices. We can try to accept it, or we can decide that the thing isn’t worth the trouble and call it quits. Although there are certainly times when calling it quits is the right thing to do, in most cases what we need are commitment(投入) and communication.
When we are committed to something, it means that no matter how painful or how uncomfortable it is, we will always choose to face it instead of running away from it. Communication is making space for discussion and talking about how you feel instead of just saying what others did wrong. If you can say to a friend “I got my feelings hurt.” rather than “You hurt my feelings.”, you are going to be able to solve the problem much faster.
When dealing with many challenges that friendship will bring to you, try to see them for what they are: small hurdles(障碍) you need to jump or get through on your way through life. Nothing is so big that it is impossible to get over, and hurt only serves to make us stronger. It’s all part of growing up. It happens to everyone, and some day you will look back on all of this and say, “Hard as it was, it made me who I am today. And that is a benefit.”
【小题1】What can we infer from the text?A.Friendship needs challenges. |
B.Challenges shape our characters. |
C.Small hurdles aren’t worth the trouble. |
D.Commitment can form friendship. |
A.Get over it. | B.Let go of it. |
C.Forget about it. | D.Put it aside. |
A.one should call it quits |
B.one should temporarily run away from it |
C.one should commit and communicate |
D.one should lay it aside for a while and ask for others’ help |
A.friendship and challenges |
B.communication and friendship |
C.commitment and communication |
D.challenges and the ways to face them |
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