It’s often said that the three most powerful words in the English language are “I love you.” But I have another three words: “I forgive you.” It is true that forgiveness doesn’t have the same rush of electric charge in it that love does. However, it is no less powerful.【小题1】Yet it holds the key to happiness in life.

There is a tendency to blame others for our faults and difficulties.【小题2】I have met so many people who hold a grudge(怨恨)and it dominates their life. Lots of people blame their parents for their problems, for example. It is an excuse-an easy pass to flash when life gets tough or difficult. Actually, what you should do is forgive your parents for the mistakes they made and accept that, from now on, the ups and downs of life are your responsibility.

【小题3】It doesn’t matter that the person you are forgiving is not sorry. When you forgive someone, they lose their control over you. Your emotions are no longer in their grip, and your feelings no longer at their mercy. I think one of the reasons we are so reluctant to forgive people is that we mistakenly think it means that what has happened is no longer affecting you, or no longer matters. That’s not true.【小题4】That’s not weakness-it’s what we are all striving for in life. In fact, forgiveness puts the person who is doing it in a position of incredible power.

I do a lot of work around forgiveness with my patients. “The day I decided to forgive him, I felt a weight lift off me, “ one of my patients said. “I realized that until I forgave him, he would always have power over me.” She showed me that forgiveness is about freeing yourself. It is a display of power-of asserting your authority and taking back control. 【小题5】

If you’ll be taking vacation time in the coming year and plan on flying, here are some shopping tips to give your undivided attention to.

When to buy

If you’re shopping for domestic flights, check prices on Tuesday afternoons. This is an old tip but still valid because most US carriers continue to release sales on Tuesday morning, and competitors quickly drop their fares to match the better deals.

When to fly

Weekdays continue to be generally cheaper times to fly than weekends for most flights. In the US specifically the cheapest days are typically Tuesday, Wednesday and Saturday. A good itinerary for the expensive US spring break travel period is Tuesday to Saturday; it won’t be cheap exactly, but it will save you money (in most cases) over weekend-to-weekend travel.

Direct vs. connecting flights

Compare the price of direct with connecting fights. Sometimes adding a stop to your route will save you money, and it might be enough to endure the extra-long flying day. Some examples;

Boston to Seattle :$247 direct, $234 one-stop

San Francisco to Raleigh/Durham: $553 direct, $362 one-stop

Okay, the savings on Boston-Seattle might not be worth it to you, but I’ll bet you’ll think twice about the direct fight for San Francisco to Raleigh.

Compare, compare, compare

Stifle the impulse to go to your favorite airline site to purchase tickets without doing any comparison; it’s a recipe for disaster. Example: Let’s say you want to fly from New York to London and figure your favorite US legacy carrier will get you there for the best price.

Airline price: $554 round-trip

Comparison price: $486

Obviously, the legacy carrier did not have the cheapest flight, but wait, there’s more: The comparison site also showed a cheaper flight from the same legacy carrier ($521). See what you’re missing when you fail to compare?

There are so many things we do in our daily lives that have become a "habit".【小题1】How you answer the phone is a habit. The way you sit in the car when you drive is a habit. Have you ever tried to change the way you do something, after you ve done it in a certain way for so long? It's not very easy to do. The minute your mind drifts to something else, you go right back to the old way of doing things.【小题2】it's a way of doing things that has become routine or commonplace. To change an existing habit or form a new one can be a boring task.

Let's pick something fairly easy to start with, like spending 15 minutes in the morning reading a book. If you want to turn something into a habit that you do every day, you have to WANT to do it.【小题3】Make a firm decision to do this on a daily basis.

Imprint it in your mind. Write several notes to yourself and put them in places where you will see them. By the alarm clock, on the bathroom mirror, on the refrigerator door, in your briefcase, and under your car keys are good places to start.

After the newness wears off, then you will have to remind yourself, "Hey, I forgot to..." Keep using the notes if you have to.【小题4】Some people say it will take over a month to solidify it and make it something you will do without having to think about it. I tend to agree with the last statement. Two to three weeks will help you to remember, but thirty days or more will make it a part of your everyday routine.【小题5】