You are a wonderful person and your mother and I think the world of you. It will not be long before you leave home to make your way in the world. Can I please give you some friendly advice？Here are some things that you should never do.

You are great and capable of achieving great things. So believe in yourself. 【小题1】Some girls get depressed, blame themselves and lose self-esteem. All sorts of problems can follow.

Throughout life try to keep your spending within your income and so save a little. Avoid getting into debt if possible. There are some exceptions — like getting a mortgage to buy a bouse — but generally if you can live within your means you will avoid all sorts of problems.

We think you look great(though some of the outfits you wear worry us!)【小题3】 Eat sensibly, take exercise and be healthy. Some girls become obsessed with losing weight or getting no the perfect shape. You look fine.

Never put yourself at serious risk. This means that you cannot trust people until you really know them and that sometimes you have to avoid things that look like they might be fun. Never get drunk or take drugs. Unfortunately there are some malevolent people out there and it is best not to take undue risks.

【小题5】 Whatever difficulties you encounter you can always talk to us and we will try to help. We are here for you.

Think Positive and Feel Positive

When you’re in a stressful situation, are you confident or unsafe? Do you react positively or negatively?

【小题1】A study by researchers at the University of Notre Dame found that negative thinking, and depression coming from it, can be catching in certain circumstances.

For example, the researchers studied 103 freshman college roommates who’d been paired casually.【小题2】 Specifically, the researchers measured the subject’s likelihood to see negative events as a reflection of their abilities and disadvantages.

After only six months, it became clear that thinking patterns and styles can be catching. 【小题3】And students paired with more positive thinking roommates were more likely to become more positive in their thinking and report less depression.

【小题4】So they might be particularly accessible to adopting the thought and behavior patterns of people around them —perhaps more so than people in less intense situations at other stages of life.

But maybe not. Other research has shown that, in general, people are affected by how those around them think. 【小题5】

Writing A Letter To Your Future Self

Just imagine writing a letter to your future self 5 years from now, then opening it at that exact moment to see how much of it has come true. 【小题1】

As you read the letter in the future, you can assess how many things agree with your expectations in the past. 【小题2】 Often times, the goals we set and our goal achievement process are affected by a lot of changes along the way. The letter lets you recognize how your current idea differs from the past.

In addition to that, at the very moment you are writing the letter, your thoughts are stored right there in those words. When you open the letter in the future, you as your future self gets to compare how you used to be in the past with how you are now. 【小题3】 It’s very interesting to do so.

Take out a pen and paper right now and start writing your letter to your future self. Set a time period to write to. 【小题4】 Then start writing. Think about the type of person you will be, your place in life, what you will have realized then, and so on.

【小题5】 Put it in a safe space where no one can find it. When you open this sometime in the near future, you might gain additional insights(了解) about yourself and your journey in the past few years.