In our life, we meet quite a lot of people: some just pass by while others can 【小题1】 our lives. Miss Bella is such a person. Miss Bella taught me two years only.【小题2】, she has taught me a lot in many ways.

Every day she began her classes with a smile and a fresh face. She made me realize that warm 【小题3】 could change a person. I was shy but I wasn’t 【小题4】 in her classes at all. She gave lessons in a 【小题5】 wav from other teachers. We had many 【小题6】 to talk about problems in English classes. Miss Bella would thumb up (竖起大拇指) to encourage us 【小题7】 someone had great ideas. Now, I 【小题8】 that I have learned much from her classes. Learning to speak out your ideas is so【小题9】 in society. She also made me realize that I could be myself by showing opinions 【小题10】.

Life is filled with challenges. As we get older we come to realize that those challenges are the very things that 【小题1】 us and make us who we are, it is the same with the challenges that come with friendship.

When we are faced with a challenge, we usually have two choices. We can try to beat it off, or we can decide that the thing 【小题2】 the challenge isn’t worth the trouble and call it quits. Although there are 【小题3】 times when calling it quits is the right thing to do, in most cases all that is needed is 【小题4】 and communication.

When we are committed to something, it means that no matter how 【小题5】 or uncomfortable something is, we will always choose to face it and work through instead of running away from it. Communication is making a 【小题6】 for discussion and talking about how you feel as opposed to just saying what the other person did wrong. If you can say to a friend, “I got my feelings hurt,” rather than “You hurt my feelings.” You are going to be able to solve the problem much faster.

In dealing with many 【小题7】 that friendship will bring to you, try to see them for what they are: small hurdles(障碍) you need to jump or get through on your way through life. Nothing is so big that it is 【小题8】 to get over, and hurt only 【小题9】 to make us stronger. It is all part of growing up, it 【小题10】 to everyone, and some day you will look back on all of this and say, “Hard as it was, it made me who I am today. And that is a good thing.”

Identify the problem, a goal, and a reward

Novelist Sarah Howery Hart says it's important that writers identify a specific problem, a goal, and a reward for any behavior they wish to change. In her conference workshops titled “Stuck, Tired, Bored, and Distracted: How Writers in Distress can use Psychology Tools to Overcome Common Writing-related Problems, she teaches techniques learned in her doctoral study of psychology to help writers become more 【小题1】 and efficient.

One of the most common 【小题2】 she hears is the lack of time to write. “First, we need to determine what that means,” she says. “Maybe it means that you do things that 【小题3】 your own writing, like checking emails and social media. Your next step is to determine how 【小题4】 this is happening.”

She offers her participants worksheets to help them measure how often a particular behavior occurs, and then asks them to 【小题5】 whether the behavior is truly a problem. “Let’s say you find that you check your email once an hour while you're writing. Is that too frequent? Only you can determine that, ’’ she says. “If you check your email and then move on to Facebook and then to Twitter-even if you’ve only checked once, this can take a(n) 【小题6】 15 minutes out of your writing hour. Also, you lose your 【小题7】 of thought and can’t remember what you were going to write next.”

She advises writers to set a goal - for instance, writing for an hour without checking email or social media. “And then you have to determine your reward 【小题8】,” she says. “How often will you need to reward yourself?”

She urges writers to assess their progress【小题9】. “After a day, after a few days，are you meeting your goals?” she says. “If the reward didn’t work, you may need to 【小题10】 it. Maybe reading a book for 15 minutes wasn't the strongest reward for you because you read for two hours when you go to bed at night. Maybe you’d rather go to the gym or out for a half-hour run.”