Some of us are better at helping others than we are at looking after ourselves. Maybe you are like this. Maybe you know someone who is. These are people who-are easy to have Super-Helper Syndrome (综合征) where you feel it is a must to help others but don’t look after your own needs. 【小题1】, so that you can take action before you reach a state of breakdown.

【小题2】. Many helpers are keen on helping others despite extreme tiredness and take this for granted. Are you tired all the time? Do you have no time for yourself? Do you suffer muscle tension or headache? Do you feel weight down?

It may bring hate. It’s easy to say you don’t want anything in return, but the reality is that it’s hard going indefinitely if you get little reward. At least you deserve thanks and recognition. 【小题3】.

It may bring exploitation(剥削). If you never express any needs, then it’s easy and convenient for other people to act as if you don’t have any. 【小题4】. If you give the impression that you want nothing in return, you get nothing in return. That’s why it’s important to take a hard look at whether some of the people you are helping are exploiting you.

It may bring self-criticism. 【小题5】. Do you criticize yourself for not helping enough? Do you criticize yourself for experiencing the other three negative impacts of the Super-Helper Syndrome: for feeling tired, hateful, or exploited?