When school started on that warm August day, I threw myself into everything I did, including playing volleyball. I decided to become beautiful, or at the very least, skinny. I stopped eating completely. Soon I began losing weight, which thrilled me, and I even grew to love the tiredness and lightheadedness that came with my poor diet, for those feelings meant that I was winning.
As the season progressed, things had become tense between my head volleyball coach, Coach Smith, and me. She felt that something was wrong with my health. She talked with me about my eating and was angry that I wouldn’t listen to her when she tried to make me eat. She tried to persuade me in a determined way and so we fought constantly. Then my hunger started to affect my performance. I was so tired that practice and games were becoming a struggle. One afternoon, with hurt in her eyes, Coach Smith asked me what I had eaten and I told her nothing yet, but I was going to. She looked at me, disappointment in her eyes, knowing she couldn’t make me stop, and walked away.
A couple of weeks later I attended a formal dinner for our volleyball team. I stood there as my coach managed to say something nice about me. I realized then that I had ruined my senior year by being disrespectful, and I had probably ruined hers as well. So that evening I wrote her a letter apologizing and thanking her.
Then one Saturday, as I was reading in the library, I felt someone gently take my arm and say softly, “Lynn Jones, how are you doing?” I looked up and saw the familiar face. “Thanks for the letter,” she said. “It meant a lot.”
When I think of a coach, I think of someone above me, someone who gives instruction-not a friend. But Coach Smith is different, and, like any other good friend, she dealt with my problem in a determined way even when I hated her for it at that time. I didn’t deserve her kindness, but she gave it anyway. I will forever be grateful for her help, and now for her friendship.
【小题1】How did the author feel when the author ate a poor diet and had a sense of tiredness?A.Ashamed | B.Proud | C.Funny | D.Nervous |
A.she refused to go on a diet. | B.she caused failure of her team. |
C.she changed the training course. | D.she kept her idea of losing weight. |
A.She felt sorry for eating too little food. |
B.She decided to improve her performance. |
C.She was grateful for Smith’s care for her health. |
D.She wanted to build a close relationship with Smith. |
A.Unexpected Friendship | B.A Fight with My Coach |
C.A Strict Volleyball Coach | D.My Way of Losing Weight |
According to a 2022 report, nearly a quarter of people had relationships that were negatively affected by contradictory views during COVID-19. Even in normal times, we gain and lose friends all the time.
Be clear and responsible
Beyond conflicts over core values, there are many reasons why people stop being friends: maybe you just drifted apart after graduating; maybe one of you has hit a milestone (parenthood say) and the other can’t relate.
When to let it fade away
Find a silver lining
No matter how a friendship ends, it hurts to let go of someone you love. “Struggling to accept the situation is normal.” says Thomas.
A.Forget the core of friendship. |
B.No matter the context, explaining clearly is key. |
C.After all, human beings are attachment creature. |
D.Thus, it will inevitably lead to a close friendship. |
E.But how do you decide when a friendship has run its course? |
F.In that case, prioritize your well-being and quietly cut ties without guilt. |
G.“Sometimes we can do nothing to decide the time,” says Thomas, a psychologist. |
I suspect that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention, and especially if it’s given from the heart. When people are talking, there’s no need to do anything but listen to them. Just take them Just listen to what they’re saying and care about it. Most times caring about it is even more important than understanding it. Most of us don’t value ourselves or our love enough to know this. It has taken me a long time to believe in the power of the simply saying “I’m so sorry” when someone is in pain, and meaning it.
One of my patients told me that when she tried to tell her story, people often interrupted to tell her that they had once had something just like that happen to them. Eventually she stopped talking to most people. She was just too lonely. We connect through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand, we move the focus of attention to ourselves. When we listen, they know that we care. Many people with cancer can talk about the relief of having someone just listen.
I have ever learned to respond to someone crying by just listening. In the old days I used to reach for the tissues(纸巾), until I realized that passing a person a tissue may be just another way to shut them down, to take them out of their experience of sadness and grief. Now I just listen. When they have cried all they need to cry, they find me there with them.
【小题1】The author intends to tell us .A.the art of listening |
B.the importance of listening to others |
C.how to keep a talk going on |
D.how to ease a patient’s pain |
A.try to give him some comfort |
B.stop him from crying |
C.cry with him |
D.just keep listening to his crying |
A.teacher |
B.patient |
C.speaker |
D.doctor |
A.care about it |
B.Just listen |
C.Don’t interrupt |
D.Mean it |
I know you probably don't realize it," Booth told her mother, "but you spend the first 20 to 30 minutes of every conversation complaining. " When her mother objected, the two agreed to start keeping a running timer. "When we sit down to talk, I'll bring a notebook," Booth says. "When she starts complaining, she will see me writing, catch herself, then stop. "
Change the subject.
Summarize the complaint. If your complainer keeps repeating himself, he may stop if you show that you're listening.
Be honest. When you have things to do, tell the complainer that you must cut the conversation short.
A.Tell the complainer to stop |
B.Challenge the person to act |
C.Ask the complainer what the problem is |
D.You may not be brave and confident like Booth |
E.You can simply tell the truth and talk about the topic gently |
F.If you shift the conversation in a direction that interests them |
G.You can tell him what you have heard to show the main points |
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