“How are you?” These are the three most useless words in the world of communication. The person asking doesn’t really want to know, and the person responding doesn’t tell the truth.
But the key to making the most out of small talk, according to Harvard researchers, is, to simply ask the other person follow-up questions. In a series of experiments, researchers analyzed more than 300 online conversations and found that those who were asked more meaningful follow-up questions (a.k.a. questions that aren’t “how are you?” or “what do you do?”), found the other person much more likable.
So how do you move from tongue-tied to being an interesting person? It depends on questions you start with, and then you can focus on the stream of follow-up questions.
Open your eyes before you open your mouth. Find something to focus on in your surroundings, like the piece of art on the wall, a family picture on their desk, a race car helmet, scattered coins from various countries and so on. There’s bound to be something that will spark small talk and help lead the conversation into unique follow-up questions.
Share some news (that actually happened).
If you have “news”, share it: “I adopted a pet over the weekend” or “My 6-year-old rode a bike for the first time yesterday”. Believe it or not, most people actually do want to know more about others, especially if they both work at the same company.
If you’re new to a company and leading a team, for example, start your first meeting by going around the room and asking each person to say one interesting thing that recently happened in their lives.
It’s not just what you say.
No matter what or how much you say, your tone of voice, facial expression and eye contact will broadcast so much more. In person, look at the other person when you speak, not at the conference table or the wall.
A.Avoid any small talk in our daily life. |
B.Be in the moment and observe your surroundings. |
C.It will also contribute to your success in your work. |
D.On the phone, smile — it will make your voice sound warmer. |
E.What follows is a meaningless exchange with zero connection. |
F.Here are some strategies on having a meaningful conversation. |
G.Due to the momentary sharing, you’ve allowed everyone to feel more personally and genuinely connected with each other. |
Answer: Congratulations on your new position! Presenting in front of your peers is a hard task in itself, and it becomes much more difficult when a question-and-answer period is required. Question and-answer periods are a great way to clarify the message and strengthen key points.
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When a person is asking a question, show interest and a desire to understand the question by listening and asking for clarification.
● Buy time.
When facing a hard question, most people can’t give an answer immediately. Buy time by repeating the question in your own words.
● Suggest a private meeting.
A one-on-one meeting is a calmer setting than speaking in front of your peers.
A.Here are some ideas that can help you prepare for your next meeting. |
B.You may also ask for explanation on the question. |
C.It can also be more effective in exchanging ideas. |
D.There were many difficult questions. |
E.Some ideas can be quite concrete. |
F.Restate the question with respect. |
G.Show your true interest. |
Find a few trusted lists. The publishing industry puts out more than 50,000 books a year.
A.Read physical books. |
B.Try to read as much as you can. |
C.Change your mind about quitting. |
D.Do you have time to read 1,000 new books a week? |
E.You'd better find out the most popular reading lists first. |
F.And it can be a welcome change to hold a physical book in your hands. |
G.With a bit of digging you can easily find the one that totally satisfies you. |
Take It Inside: How to Keep Your House Cool This Summer
Keeping your home cool during a hot summer season is never easy. But it’s not impossible, just read on to learn more about keeping your house cool in even the highest temperatures.
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Using the oven during the warmer months is just asking for heat stroke — and pretty unnecessary. Overnight oatmeal is a favorite no-bake breakfast. Just add some oats, milk and brown sugar to a glass jar.
·Avoid the washer and dryer when temperatures are higher.
In the summer, fashion should be as relaxed as your attitude because who wants to wash, dry, and fold in the heat? No thanks. Simply hand wash your clothes in cold water and let it air dry outside while cooling off with friends.
·Close doors and open windows.
·Make easy sun tea recipe.
Tea is a longtime summer tradition — the process involves making tea in boiling water.
A.Turn your oven off. |
B.Breakfast is simple. |
C.Let the sun do the work for you! |
D.Boiling water should be ready at hand. |
E.Then place it in the refrigerator overnight. |
F.Any room you’re not using, keep that door closed. |
G.No drying means no heat gets caught in your home. |
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