Think about that. If you are anything like me, you struggle to ask for help when you need it. It’s something a lot of humans battle with. You don’t want to be a burden on others. You are afraid to speak up, or want to prove that you can do it yourself.
You don’t ask for help when you don’t know how to do something or can’t manage it on your own, because you might be afraid of looking stupid or incompetent. You might pretend like you know what you’re doing when you’re really drowning. Perhaps you think asking for help is a sign of weakness; that if you ask for help you’re admitting you’re inadequate in some way; that you lack knowledge, skill or experience to do something yourself. You don’t want anyone to see that you’re struggling and you want people to think that you’re in control and can handle things.
There are tons of reasons you won’t ask for help, but not doing so can be a mistake. You get in your own way if you make asking for help mean something negative about you when it doesn’t. Asking for help doesn’t mean you’re stupid or inadequate. It simply means you need help with something specific for a time.
Confident people often ask others for help. They do so not only because they’re secure enough to let it be known they need help, but they know that trying to do everything themselves is not always the best use of their time, skills or energy. They recognize it can leave them feeling overwhelmed and stressed and then they can’t do things properly. Confident people find someone who’s good at what they need to learn or get done and then ask for their help and guidance. They know that asking, “Can you help me?” shows respect for the other person’s knowledge and abilities. Otherwise, they wouldn’t ask.
【小题1】What does the author tend to do when encountering difficulties?| A．He is unwilling to turn to others for help. |
| B．He will actively seek for diverse solutions. |
| C．He will ask for help from his closest friends. |
| D．He will refuse friendly help from others. |
| A．To avoid making many mistakes. |
| B．To cover up one’s lack of confidence. |
| C．To reassure others about their own abilities. |
| D．To prove that they have been striving. |
| A．It is a very shameful thing to ask for help. |
| B．Asking for help is the last way to improve one’s abilities. |
| C．It is stupid to ask for help when one meets difficulties. |
| D．Don’t hesitate to seek help when it is necessary. |
| A．They respectfully call anyone better than themselves their teacher. |
| B．They seek advice from people better than themselves in anything. |
| C．They consider it as a way to show respect for knowledge and abilities. |
| D．They strongly believe that asking others is lowering themselves. |
