Ghosting— or the “art” of suddenly disappearing and without a trace like a call,-组卷网

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Ghosting — or the “art” of suddenly disappearing and without a trace like a call, an email, or a text from someone’s life — is an old phenomenon and is becoming more common nowadays in social and professional settings. Social media and digital devices give us a zillion (大量的) more ways to reach out to each other, and we also have a zillion more ways to avoid each other. Ghosting may feel like the least messy way to handle a break-up. But is it a good idea for you and the one involved?

Jenny Mollen is a 40-year-old actress and author who once ghosted a friend she no longer wanted to see. She told the New York Times that she didn’t know how else to end it. “If you disappear completely,” she said, “you never have to deal with knowing someone is mad at you and being the bad guy”. However, the person being ghosted still feels anger and sadness, plus confusion and upset at the loss of contact.

Some experts say that people today are actually becoming inept when handling difficult conversations. Social psychologist Sara H. Konrath found that college students had few skills associated with emotional intelligence. For example, it’s difficult for many teens to think from another person’s perspective.

The reason may be simple: less practice. They prefer digital communication to keep contact, and can choose ghosting as a way to break up. However, facial expressions, gestures, and tones of voice convey things that text messages and even calls cannot. People gain a deeper understanding of each other when they talk face to face. And this is especially important and helpful when the topic is a hard one. If you are in situation where you want to escape, calm down and reflect. You definitely have better ways than ghosting.

【小题1】How will the person being ghosted probably feel?