One morning I jumped into the swimming pool and the words "eighty-four degrees" popped into my mind. I knew that the temperature of the water was 84 degrees Fahrenheit. Just to confirm my impression, I dropped a thermometer(温度计) into the water. Sure enough, it was 84 degrees. Over the next few days, a the temperature in the pool changed, I continued to "guess" the water temperature accurately. I then realized had become something of a "human thermometer".

I was not born with this ability. I trained myself to do it, entirely by accident. Swimming is one of my favorite activities. Each morning from late April through early October, I swim laps in my backyard pool. didn’t really develop any special ability. Every healthy person is able to sense warmth and cold. What I did was connect those sensations to specific numbers. Over time, with daily reinforcement(加强), it made me into an amazing human thermometer. It certainly won't get me a show on "America's Got Talent", but it does earn me a little respect at the beach or at pool parties.

What's most interesting to me is the way it came about I did not try to learn how to be a human thermometer. Yet as a result of my consistent actions, day after day, it did indeed happen. And that made me wonder what else I was training myself to do that I didn't even realize.

I started writing articles for The Daily Motivator back in 1995 because I understood the power of positive reinforcement on a daily basis. The messages are short and simple and not particularly shocking I take Sundays off but other than that I have never missed a single day of writing a new, original daily message in 21 years. This actually makes a real difference to me. Not overnight, but over time.

Once there was a king who had given his daughter a beautiful diamond necklace. However, the necklace was stolen. Some said a bird might have taken it. The king then asked all his people to search for it. And he put up a reward of￡50,000 for anyone who found it.

One day, a man was walking along a river. Suddenly, he saw something shiny in the river. He thought that it might be the diamond necklace. So he decided to get it so that he could get the reward. He put his hand into the dirty river and tried to grab the necklace, but somehow he missed it. Having taken his hand out, he saw that the necklace was still there. Then he walked into the river and put his arm in to grab the necklace. He still missed it!

He came out and decided to walk away. Just when he was about to leave, he saw the necklace again. This time, he jumped into the river and searched everywhere, yet he failed to find the necklace. He came out, puzzled.

Then a wise man saw him and asked him what had happened. The man told him nothing, thinking he might take the necklace for himself. Nevertheless, the wise man could see that he was in search of something. He asked him again, and promised that he wouldn’t tell anyone. After hearing this, the man told the wise man about the necklace and how he had tried to grab it, but kept failing. The wise man then told him that perhaps he should look up, towards the branches of a tree. The man raised his head, only to see the necklace on a branch of the tree. What he had been trying to get was just a reflection of the necklace all the time.

A couple had a son eleven years after they married. They were a loving couple and the boy was the apple of their eye. When the boy was around four years old, one day the father was very tired after work so he asked his wife to pick up their son. The mother, who was very busy in the kitchen, totally forgot about it.

Later the boy lost his way on the street. When the son was found missing, the mother hurried to look for him, but she didn't find him. The mother felt very sad and didn't know how to face her husband.

When the father went to the police station after hearing that the son was missing, he looked at his wife and said just four words. What do you think the four words were? The husband just said “I love you, darling.”

The son was missing. If she had picked him up earlier, this would not have happened. There is no point in blaming (责备) anyone. His wife had also lost her only child. What his wife needed at that moment was comfort and understanding from her husband. That is what the husband gave his wife. Several weeks later, with the help of the police, the couple finally found their lost son. The family's relationship became stronger over that time.

Sometimes we spend lots of time asking who is to blame. We miss many chances to give each other support and let each other feel the warmth of human relationships. Get rid of all your unwillingness to forgive, selfishness, and fears and you will find the world is much more wonderful.