You have worked hard, suffered years of sacrifice to achieve your dream, and you can finally sit back and enjoy the fruits of your labors. 【小题1】 Let’s examine 3 possible reasons why you are not happy and suggest some solutions which perhaps guide you towards happiness.

Being given a false image of happiness.

We all have our own view of happiness. We know what will make us happy. 【小题2】 We have been seduced into thinking that material gains are all that makes happiness. Perhaps it’s having a big, expensive cars, and a bank account with lots of money. Maybe you have been pulled into the world of an advertiser’s dream, not your dream.

Feeling envious.

【小题3】 When you see someone with a better car, a better house, or even a more attractive partner, it is easy to feel you have failed if you don’t have the same. Envy will never bring you happiness. Envy just feeds into your negative view of life.

【小题4】

If you fail to find happiness as you follow your road to success, it will be due to your inner felling of inadequacy (不足). When you reach one goal and do not feel happy, you are going to convince yourself that that goal was not a proper goal, or not a big enough goal, and you must reach the next goal before finding happiness. 【小题5】

What should you do to get happiness back? Rid yourself of the burdens from the past and replace bad memories with positive thoughts and actions. Adopt an optimistic, joyful approach to life, and take care to avoid negativity.

If you’re afraid to fly, you’re in good company. About 40% of Americans feel some fear at the thought of flying. 【小题1】, these tips can help.

【小题2】

Exposure therapy is the idea that being exposed to something you’re afraid of over and over again calms down your limbic system so it doesn’t fire up as fast. That could mean less anxiety in the long run.

During the night, distract yourself

When we’re really anxious, we can’t think straight. The key is to try to connect to your rational, thinking brain. When we really focus on thinking, like doing a math problem, our emotional brain calms down. Try a crossword puzzle or Sudoku, read a really juicy romance novel or get through a pile of paperwork. 【小题3】.

If you hit turbulence (气流), don’t force yourself to calm down

During a rough flight, you might be to take slow, deep breaths to calm down. 【小题4】   . It’s nearly impossible to stop your fight-or-flight response, once it’s been triggered. Remind yourself that your body is having a normal response to a perceived threat.

Consult with a doctor about medication (冥想), if you feel you might need it

There are medications pretty quickly taking down anxiety.   【小题5】, talk with your primary care doctor or a psychiatrist. Try to think of a medication that’s not just short-term, but something that can help you bring your baseline anxiety down.