Everyone wants to be truly happy.【小题1】For example，we should be true to ourselves，we should think positively，we should always smile，we should learn to be thankful and so on. To be a truly happy person，not only must we know what we should do，but also we have to keep these don’ts in mind.

Never rest on the past.

Your past is just a story. Everyone has a past often full of pain，disappointment，missed opportunities，and unfulfilled（未实现的）expectations.【小题2】If you rest on the past all the time，those unhappy things will always bother you and you won’t be happy forever.

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Be grateful for what you have got. You could waste hours counting the things you would like to improve，which would only take you away from appreciating your real life.

Never stop improving yourself.

We are all different，and there is no perfect direction or path to our personal development. The whole point is to become the best version of you，and never stop taking lessons from your own life experiences.【小题4】

Never lose a sense of purpose in what you are doing.

Your time and power are limited，so spend them wisely and use your energy on something meaningful.【小题5】A life without a purpose i» a life without the sun. If you lose a sense of purpose，you will never be truly happy.

How to Be a Better Person

Life can be a whirlwind (旋风) of responsibilities and stress, but with the right focus, you can start becoming a person you want to be. From honoring yourself to doing small acts of kindness, there’s something you can do every day to improve yourself. 【小题1】

Set goals.

Positive and practical goals can give you something to struggle for. Everyone needs something to live for. 【小题2】 Not only can wanting something make you a happier and better person, but it can also help you find your purpose.

Be patient.

【小题3】 That doesn’t matter. Rather than getting upset when things don’t go your way, take a deep breath and remember to have patience. Try enjoying these slow moments and recognizing the positives in the situation.

Be grateful.

Practicing gratitude (感激) every day can help you be more positive. Gratitude is more than a feeling. 【小题4】 No matter where you are, be grateful and love your family. Take a moment to recognize that every smile or simple favor is a gift.

Practice forgiveness.

Forgiving yourself and others can help you improve relationships. On your journey to becoming a better person, it’s important to let go of any dissatisfaction you’re holding. 【小题5】 It’s time to move forward. Allow yourself time to forgive your past mistakes and recognize what they’ve taught you. Then, forgive those who have hurt you.

Imagine that a close friend ignores you when you arrive at his party. 【小题1】 But if you think about the situation differently, you would calm down. Using a particular emotion management strategy called reappraisal, which involves viewing an upsetting event in a positive light, is often effective in contributing to positive outcomes.

【小题2】 The research showed that if people believed feelings were malleable (可塑造的), they used reappraisal more frequently, and in return they had greater emotional health and life satisfaction.

University of Toronto researcher Brett Ford and her colleagues did another study. 【小题3】 The researchers found that the youths who believed emotions were controllable used reappraisal more and were less depressed than those who didn’t.

Does accepting our feelings impact our well-being? 【小题4】 In one research, the researchers stressed out participants by requiring them to give an impromptu (即兴的) talk. In another research, people kept daily diaries about how they handled stressors (紧张性刺激). In both cases participants who accepted their feelings experienced less negative emotions than people who judged their feelings.

“However, while emotions may be changed with efforts, that doesn’t mean they’re completely controllable,” says Eric Smith of Stanford University, “we shouldn’t expect to completely avoid or immediately remove certain of feelings. 【小题5】”