We need to be conscious of the fact that people around us influence us in subtle ways that may encourage us, or hamper it. Motivational speaker Jim Rohn famously said, “You’re the average of the five people you spend most of your time with”.
If this “circle” of people is goal-driven, and encouraging, we can experience a positive impact on our actions. On the other hand, if the people around us are negative and restrictive, we may subconsciously “live-up” to these qualities and stop our own personal growth in the process.
How do you identify who is influencing you? Be mindful of the conversations you have with people and the activities you engage in with them. What are the opinions that dominate in your social group?
Nourish your circle
Once you identify the people who belong to your reference group, it is important to nourish these relationships.
A.Know your circle |
B.Dominate your circle |
C.Over time, this core circle may change. |
D.It means that this “circle” can help you live a better life. |
E.The influence of those around us can be quite significant. |
F.Also remember, just like others influence you, you also have an influence on others. |
G.What are the similarities between you and the five people you are constantly close to? |
We need to be conscious of the fact that people around us influence us in subtle ways that may encourage us, or hamper it. Motivational speaker Jim Rohn famously said, “You’re the average of the five people you spend most of your time with”.
If this “circle” of people is goal-driven, and encouraging, we can experience a positive impact on our actions. On the other hand, if the people around us are negative and restrictive, we may subconsciously “live-up” to these qualities and stop our own personal growth in the process.
How do you identify who is influencing you? Be mindful of the conversations you have with people and the activities you engage in with them. What are the opinions that dominate in your social group?
Nourish your circle
Once you identify the people who belong to your reference group, it is important to nourish these relationships.
A.Know your circle |
B.Dominate your circle |
C.Over time, this core circle may change. |
D.It means that this “circle” can help you live a better life. |
E.The influence of those around us can be quite significant. |
F.Also remember, just like others influence you, you also have an influence on others. |
G.What are the similarities between you and the five people you are constantly close to? |
People often say that the Englishman’s home is his castle. They mean that the home is very important and personal to him. Most people in Britain live in houses rather than flats, and many people own their homes. This means that they can make them individual; they can paint them, and change them in any way they like. Most houses have a garden, even if it is a very small one, and the garden is usually loved. The house and the garden are the private space of the individual.
People usually like to mark their space. Are you sitting now in your home or on a train? Have you marked the space around yourself as your? If you are on the train you may put your coat or small bag on the seat beside you. If you share a flat, you may have one corner or chair which is your own.
Once I was travelling on a train to London. I was in a section for four people and there was a table between us. There was no space on my side of the table at all. I was angry. Maybe he thought that he owned the whole table. I had read a book about nonverbal communication, so I took various papers out of my bag and put them on his briefcase! When I did this he stiffened and his eyes nearly popped (瞪出) out of his head. I had invaded (侵犯) his space! A few minutes later I took my papers off his case in order to read them. He immediately moved his case to his side of the table. Of course, it is possible that he just wanted to be helpful to me!
If you are visiting another country, you may feel that you don’t have any private space. Hotel rooms look much the same in every country in the world. All day long, you share public spaces with other people. You see the local people in their private spaces and you feel lonely and “outside”. Local people can create their private spaces by talking about things you don’t know about. And you even feel that they like you to be outside them so that they will enjoy being inside even more! This is one of the difficulties of being a traveler! But if you understand it then it helps you. Haven’t you enjoyed being part of a group and “owning” a bit of space?
【小题1】The writer was angry as he was travelling on a train to London because________.A.he had no place to sit |
B.someone had invaded his “space” |
C.too many people shared a section with him |
D.some other people talked about things he didn’t know about |
A.British people dislike marking their space. |
B.You always feel at home in another country. |
C.Most British people prefer living in houses to flats. |
D.You can’t mark your private space in a foreign country. |
A.own private spaces by living in houses |
B.have one corner of their own in public places |
C.realize the importance of “space” in communication |
D.create their private spaces by talking with local people |
There was a time when I was very concerned about what other people thought of me, especially when I was misunderstood and labeled incorrectly.
·Understand you can’t control others. The reality is that you cannot control what another person thinks of you. What most people don’t understand is that we often form opinions of others based on associations we had in the past.
·Practice daily self-love and acceptance. Your situation may come from a concept that we are not as worthy as another person and our needs are not as important as theirs.
·Live a life that pleases you. Constant worry about what others think of you must create considerable stress and will impact your relationships, your health, and your peace of mind.
·Stay true to your values and do your own thing. You will not need to be concerned with the few people who just don’t seem to understand you.
A.Be who you really are. |
B.Identify and understand why you care. |
C.Recognize you are equal to every other person. |
D.They think of you in a way that might be out of date. |
E.You can live your fulfilling life and they can live theirs. |
F.Caring too much about their views was energy-consuming and unnecessary. |
G.And the bottom line is that it’s none of your business what another person thinks of you. |
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