We need to be conscious of the fact that people around us influence us in subtle ways that may encourage us, or hamper it. Motivational speaker Jim Rohn famously said, “You’re the average of the five people you spend most of your time with”. 【小题1】

If this “circle” of people is goal-driven, and encouraging, we can experience a positive impact on our actions. On the other hand, if the people around us are negative and restrictive, we may subconsciously “live-up” to these qualities and stop our own personal growth in the process.

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How do you identify who is influencing you? Be mindful of the conversations you have with people and the activities you engage in with them. What are the opinions that dominate in your social group? 【小题3】If there is a discrepancy between what you are and where you want to be, look at your circle of five and you will see how instrumental they are in influencing your path. Identify and exclude time and energy vampires from your circle of five.

Nourish your circle

Once you identify the people who belong to your reference group, it is important to nourish these relationships.   【小题4】 Different individuals evolve at a different pace. The important part is to be aware of this living and changing “circle of five”. Of course, five is a rough guide. It could be slightly more or less. Let this circle of five motivate you, help you gain courage, and take the right actions.

【小题5】 Play this role sincerely and demonstrate a growth mindset to anyone who lists you as part of their circle of five.