Dave was my rock. When I got upset, he stayed calm. When I was worried, he said that everything would be OK. When I wasn’t sure what to do, he helped me figure it out. Like all married couples, we had our ups and downs. Still Dave gave me the experience of being deeply understood, truly supported and completely loved. I thought I’d spend the rest of my life resting my head on his shoulder.

Since Dave passed away, so many people have said to me, “I can’t imagine.” They mean they can’t imagine this happening to them, can’t imagine how I am standing there talking to them rather than curled (蜷缩) up in a ball somewhere. I remember feeling the same way when I saw a colleague back at work after losing a child or a friend buying coffee after being diagnosed (诊断) with cancer. When I was on the other side, my reply became, “I can’t imagine either, but I have no choice.”

I had no choice but to wake up every day. No choice but to get through the shock, the sorrow, the survivor guilt. No choice but to try to move forward and be a good mother at home. No choice but to try to focus and be a good colleague at work.

Loss, sorrow, and disappointment are extremely personal. We all have unique circumstances and reactions to them. Still, the kindness and bravery of those who shared their experiences helped pull me through mine. Some are total strangers who offered wisdom and advice publicly—sometimes even in books with horrible titles. Others are my closest friends who opened their hearts, patient yet insistent that the darkness would pass, but that I would have to help it along. That even in the face of the most shocking misfortune of my life, I could have some control over its impact.

【小题1】What is paragraph 1 mainly talking about?

A．The different characters the couple had.

B．The role Dave played in the author’s life.

C．The ups and downs the couple had in life.

D．The happy days Dave brought to the author.

【小题2】What did many people mean by saying “I can’t imagine.”?

A．They were lacking in imagination.

B．They felt sympathy for the author.

C．They couldn’t believe Dave’s passing away.

D．They didn’t understand the author’s response.

【小题3】How did the author get over the sorrow?

A．By reading books with horrible titles.

B．By sharing her experience with others.

C．By waiting for the darkness to pass slowly.

D．By controlling the effects of the misfortune.

【小题4】Which word can best describe the author’s attitude to misfortune?

A．Positive.	B．Cautious.
C．Doubtful.	D．Indifferent.