Regret is a very real reaction to a disappointing event in your life, a choice you made that can’t be changed, something you said that you can’t take back. 【小题1】 Regret can increase our stress, negatively affect physical health and disturb the balance of our immune systems.

【小题2】 One is what researchers refer to as the action path and the other is the inaction path. That is, we can regret the things we did or we can regret the things we did not do. Research suggests that action-related regret, although painful, encourages people to learn from their mistakes and move on. 【小题3】 This kind of regret is more likely to lead to depression and anxiety.

As with other negative emotions, it doesn’t work to avoid, deny or try to destroy regret. 【小题4】 Rather than stay put, people can manage these emotions in four steps: First, accept the fact that you are feeling them; determine why you are feeling them; allow yourself to learn from them: and, finally, release them and move forward.

You can help release these feelings of regret by practicing self-compassion (自我同情).This means reminding yourself that you are human, you are doing the best you can and you can learn from past decisions and grow. 【小题5】

Noticing, acknowledging and then forgiving your thoughts are a powerful step towards overcoming regret.