When Sarah Harmeyer moved to Dallas, she didn’t know any of her neighbors. So she offered to invite them all to dinner—and was thrilled when 91 people showed up in her backyard. For Harmeyer, it started with a simple desire to know others in her community. And the free Nextdoor neighborhood networking app made what could seem like a tough process easy.

“I went to the app and I said, ‘If you’ve never stepped outside your house to meet your neighbors, would you consider coming? I would love to meet you’”, she said. After she reached out, Harmeyer discovered others wanted to connect just as much as she did, if not more.

Since that first request, Harmeyer has now hosted gatherings with more than 3, 500 neighbors in total. She’s had people over for backyard concerts, holiday parties and more. Harmeyer even shares hosting tips and tricks with others interested in becoming “people- gatherers” like her.

According to a recent survey, now half of Americans feel they can depend more on their neighbors and local community than before. 72% of Americans have made it more important to support local businesses and 61% now feel it’s more necessary to build connections in the neighborhood than outside their community. Research also shows that a majority of people   (58%) have a renewed appreciation of their neighborhood.

Whether it’s by picking up groceries for a disabled neighbor, offering childcare, or sharing trusted information and recommendations—like which local pizza joint satisfies tastes most—neighbors are showing up for one another and are happy to do so.

Harmeyer’s story shows how one person has the power to strengthen their entire neighborhood. Technology like Nextdoor can be used to promote real-world interactions—and, in turn, these gatherings can make positive change.

“Something is extraordinary when we reach out to each other as neighbors”, Harmeyer said.

Attracting people will earn you new friends and relationship. If you are an attractive person, both inside and out, you can have better bonds with your peers. 【小题1】 All you have to do is start with yourself and the rest will come.

Don’t forget to smile. A smile is the best accessory（配饰）you can wear if you want to attract people. It sends out a message that you are happy and very approachable. 【小题2】 It will make your face look warmer and more positive.

Care about other people. 【小题3】 Try to be more conscious about how you relate with other people. If you notice that you talk about yourself constantly, you may come across as very unlikable to people.

【小题4】 Open a door for a workmate who is carrying things. Say “thank you” to the waiter when he gets your order. If you see a friend feeling down, try to cheer her or him up. Things like that make a big influence on the impression people have of you.

Be true to yourself. If you’re not true to yourself then you won’t be happy. What would be the point of attracting other people if you have no happiness to give? Always remember that attractiveness starts from within.【小题5】 This is the true secret to attracting other people: be-cause all of the tips above will not work unless you are true to yourself.

Organizations and societies rely on fines and rewards to harness people’s self-interest in the service of the common good. The threat of a ticket keeps drivers in line, and the promise of a bonus inspires high performance. But incentives can also backfire, diminishing the very behavior they’re meant to encourage.

A generation ago, Richard Titmuss claimed that paying people to donate blood reduced the supply. Economists were skeptical, citing a lack of evidence. But since then, new data and models have prompted a sea of changes in how economists think about incentives — showing, among other things, that Titmuss was right often enough that businesses should take note.

Experimental economists have found that offering to pay women for donating blood decreases the number willing to donate by almost half, and that letting them contribute the payment to charity reverses the effect. Dozens of recent experiments show that rewarding self-interest with economic incentives can backfire when they undermine what Adam Smith called “the moral sentiments”. The psychology here has confused blackboard economists, but it will be no surprise to people in business: when we take a job or buy a car, we are not only trying to get stuff — we are also trying to be a certain kind of person. People desire to be esteemed by others and to be seen as ethical and dignified. And they don’t want to be taken for suckers. Rewarding blood donations may backfire because it suggests that the donor is less interested in being selfless than in making a buck. Incentives also run into trouble when they signal that the employer mistrusts the employee or is greedy. Close supervision of workers coupled with pay for performance is textbook economics — and a prescription for gloomy employees.

Perhaps most important, incentives affect what our actions signal, whether we’re being self-interested or civic-minded, manipulated or trusted, and they can imply — sometimes wrongly — what motivates us. Fines or public criticism that appeal to our moral sentiments by signaling social disapproval (think of littering) can be highly effective. But incentives go wrong when they offend or diminish our ethical sensibilities.

This does not mean it’s impossible to appeal to self-interested and ethical motivations at the same time — just that efforts to do so often fail. Ideally, policies support socially valued ends not only by harnessing self-interest but also by encouraging public-spiritedness. The small tax on plastic grocery bags enacted in Ireland in 2002 that resulted in their virtual elimination appears to have had such an effect. It punished offenders monetarily while conveying a moral message. Carrying a plastic bag joined wearing a fur coat in the gallery of antisocial conduct.