The Truth Is Out
Human beings are not born liars, but the moment we can form complete sentences we begin lying to protect the feelings of others, to avoid punishment and conflict, and, most frequently, because lying gives advantages the truth wouldn’t provide. Lying gets results.
One study by Bella DePaulo, a professor of psychology at the University of Virginia, found lies played a part in 30-38 percent of people’s social interactions. Socially skillful people told a lot more lies than their more awkward coworkers.
Nowhere is this more obvious than on the singles scene. First dates have always involved a certain amount of self-boast, but some singles now regard out-and-out deceit (欺骗) as a reasonable strategy.
Experts believe that increased competition and the higher expectations among singles, along with the popularity of Internet dating, are encouraging outbreaks of deceitfulness. The problem is that many singles are presenting images of themselves that are impossible to live up to, and costing their already limited chances of long-term love in the process.
Of course, long-term lovers aren’t immune (不受影响) to the conflict-avoiding, problem-burying lie either. Once again, a pleasant singles scene coupled with unrealistic expectations has put new pressure on less-than-faultless relationships and tempted many into more serious deception. A study last year by Cahoot found that a majority of partners lie to each other about their personal financial situation. Other studies have found that women appreciate wise lies about their weight or looks.
Possibly. After all, few of us feel that lying is wrong any more.
A.Lying, it seems, is becoming an acceptable and even admirable social skill. |
B.A lie is only wrong because it might be discovered, and cause hurt and upset. |
C.But the Cahoot research also showed that lying is on increasingly difficult ground. |
D.We, as a result, are all on the receiving end of a great many more lies than in the past. |
E.They are so emotionally and intellectually evolved now that they are lying more, on a regular basis. |
F.They either stop potential lovers by asking for too much, or they invite lies that will be discovered quickly. |