The only person who can change what you feel is you.

A new relationship, a new house, a new car, a new job, these things can momentarily distract(转移) you from your _______, but no other person, no material possession, no activity can remove, release, or _______how you feel. How often do you _______people say things like "when I have enough _______, I won't be afraid anymore", only to find there never seems to be enough money to _______ being afraid. Or "when I'm in a secure relationship I won't _______ lonely any more", and finding they are still _______ regardless of their relationship. We need to _______that we take our feelings with us _______ we go. A new dress, a new house, a new job, none of these things change how we feel. Our feelings ________ within us until we release them.

You can not change or ________ your emotions. You can learn how to ________ with them, living peacefully with them, transmuting them (which means releasing them), and you can manage them, but you ________ control them.

Think of the people who go along day after day seeming to function normally, and all of a sudden they will ________ in anger at something that seems relatively little and ________.

That is one sign of someone who is trying to control or repress(压抑) their ________but their repressed emotions are ________. The more anyone tries to control their emotions the ________ they resist control, and the more frightened people ________ become at what is seen to be a "________ of emotional control". It is a vicious circle.

On cold mornings my father would bring his bread truck by the house. I used to ________ on the floor of that bread truck as he sent the bread to the stores. The ________ and the warmth from the bread made my mouth water and kept me warm.

My father would ________ all my games. One night before an important game my father told me ________ that he wouldn’t be able to watch the game because he had to send the bread and it was a three-hour ________ from his route. The next day as the game time approached, I thought about my dad. I happened to look across the field and ________ saw his bread truck pulling into the stadium. He managed to ________ it to the game.

Years later I became a teacher. I’d never forget the voice on the phone early one morning telling me Dad had just been ________ in a traffic accident. I could hear my heart ________ in my ears. I ________ the phone and went back to my bedroom. After that, nothing really ________ to me. I still taught in school ________ I couldn’t focus on my teaching. One day, I was on the playground when a little boy walked up to me and ________ my hand. His hand held mine the same way I used to hold my father’s by the last two ________. At that moment I found my ________ in life again. You see even though my father was gone, he left something with me. He left me his smile, compassion and touch.

Lewis B. Smedes once said, “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” For years Tom Anderson’s life was withered up (枯萎) by the memory of his _______ in an adventure that _______ the death of one of his classmates. He and his wife _______ after six years of marriage. Then the news about Tom _______. His wife Betty came back; he _______ a fine position.

One day he told me what had changed his life, “I used to think nothing could _______ the effect of what I had done. The thought of my _______ would stop me in the middle of a smile. It put a _______ between my wife and me. Then I had an _______ visit from the person I dreaded (恐惧) most to see — the mother of the college ________ who died.

‘Unless you ________, you cannot love.’ She said, “And without love, life has no ________.” She paused, and then said ________, “You are the one person ________ hasn’t forgiven Tom Anderson.” I found there in her eyes ________ to be the person I might have been if her boy had lived. For the first time in my life I felt myself ________ to love and be loved.”

Forgiveness is truly the ________ grace (慈悲), through which we ________   the freedom to learn from experience. But forgiving our shortcomings doesn’t mean ________ that they exist. On the contrary, it means facing them ________.