It’s said that you can choose your friends but not your family. Maybe, But it’s clear that good friends come with plenty of health benefits, Now research suggests that your friendships may be more important than family relationships when it comes to your health and happiness.
Researchers from Michigan State University carried out two studies published in Personal Relationships. They first looked at data from nearly 280,000 people from almost 100 countries worldwide. After comparing people’s friendships and family relationships with their physical and mental health, the team discovered that friendship was linked to higher scores of well-being (康乐) than family relationships.
The second study involved (涉及) almost 7, 500 older adults, and suggested that the quality of friendships had a much bigger influence on health than family relationships. People who reported stressful friendships were much more likely to suffer poor health compared to those who had positive friendships; the influence on health from good or bad family relationships was small.
Friendships are very important to well-being. For one, it’s easier to drop a bad friendship than it is to cut ties with a family member. Even better, friends can also provide social support when things get tough with family members, such as going through a divorce or when caring for an aged parent. And long-lasting friendships are less likely to be filled with guilt than a family relationship.
Of course, good friendships don’t just happen — they require time, but time spent on developing good friendships is worth it.
“Friendships help us shun loneliness but are often harder to maintain (维持) throughout the life,” explains William Chopik, PHD, assistant professor of psychology.“ If a friendship has survived the test of time, you know it must be a good one. It means you’ve found someone you turn to for help and advice often.”
【小题1】What did the two studies focus on?A.Examining the influence of friendships and family relationships on well-being. |
B.Telling people to pay more attention to friends instead of family members. |
C.Proving that friendships are the most important part of people’s life. |
D.Finding out the similarities between friends and family members. |
A.How family members benefit our well-being. |
B.What family members are unable to do for us. |
C.when friendships can play a key part in our life. |
D.Why friendships are key to health and happiness. |
A.Only time can test good friendships. |
B.Friendships can happen all the time. |
C.It takes time to gain good friendships. |
D.We should be patient with our friends. |
A.Avoid. | B.Predict | C.Experience | D.Value |
Empathy, namely the ability to understand another person's feelings, is probably one of the most important skills a person might have. Empathy is not just for building and maintaining strong and healthy relationships, but to work more effectively and achieve greater success in life.
Empathy is often acquired beyond verbal language. You can experience empathy by noticing a person's facial expressions and voice. You try to tell when he needs attention, acknowledgement, or an offer of help. You grasp when he wants you to leave and give him space or when he wants you to quietly stand by. Empathy demonstrates you care.
However, having an endless capacity for empathy is dangerous. With empathy, you will feel others’ stress, anxiety, and anger. If you let these emotions sit in your body, your mind can be emotionally controlled. Absorbing other people's feelings can make you easily affected by feelings of depression and hopelessness.
In fact, extreme empathy can break the bond of trust that you were hoping to strengthen. When you take on other people's emotions, you may feel responsible for easing their pain. You are driven by a strong desire to fix their problems and interrupt to offer aid. However, your intrusive reaction will make them feel disrespected and less understood.
Non-reactive empathy is especially useful when you feel the desire to jump in and fix people. To acquire non-reactive empathy, you should receive whatever might pass into your mind in a calm way. Notice when emotions begin to arise in your body. Name the emotion and offer what you sense to the person to help him or her better understand the experience. Then you can relax your body and let the emotion fade away.
【小题1】Which is NOT mentioned as the advantage of empathy?A.Keeping healthy relationships. |
B.Working more effectively. |
C.Making friends with people. |
D.Improving your social status. |
A.Persuading her to stop crying. |
B.Accompanying her quietly. |
C.Blaming her for her mistakes. |
D.Telling her that everything is possible. |
A.Absorbing others' feelings. |
B.Interrupting to give help. |
C.Being sensitive to bad emotions. |
D.Letting emotions fade away. |
A.To introduce a common problem. |
B.To add some background information. |
C.To provide some advice for readers. |
D.To summarize the previous paragraphs. |
Too many people want others to be their friends, but they don’t give friendship back. That is why some friendships don’t last long. To have a friend, you must learn to be one. You must learn to treat your friend the way you want your friend to treat you. Learning to be a good friend means learning three rules: be honest; be generous (慷慨的); be understanding.
Honesty is where a good friendship starts. Friends must be able to trust one another. If you do not tell the truth, people usually find out. If a friend finds out that you haven’t been honest, you may lose your friend’s trust. Good friends always rely on one another to speak and act honestly.
Generosity means sharing and sharing makes a friendship grow. You do not have to give your lunch money or your clothes. Naturally you will want to share your ideas and feelings. These can be very valuable to a friend. They tell your friend what is important to you. By sharing them, you help your friend know better.
Sooner or later everyone needs understanding and help with each other. Something may go wrong at school. Talking about the problem can make it easier to solve. Turning to a friend can be a first step in solving the problem. So to be a friend you must listen and understand. You must try to put yourself in your friend’s shoes so that you can understand the problem better.
No two friendships are exactly alike. But all true friendships have three things in common. If you plan to keep your friends, you must practice honesty, generosity and understanding.
【小题1】Some friendships don’t last long because _______.A.there are too many people who want to make friends |
B.some people receive friendship but don’t give friendship back |
C.those who give others friendship receive friendship from others |
D.they don’t know friendship is something serious |
A.something countable | B.the base of friendship |
C.as important as money | D.more important than anything else |
A.Honesty Is the Best Policy | B.A Friend in Need Is a Friend indeed |
C.How to Be Friends | D.Three Important Points in Life |
A.Learning to be a good friend means learning to be kind to your friends. |
B.If you tell a lie and your friend finds out, he or she will never trust you again. |
C.You should treat your friend the way you want your friend to treat you if you want a true friendship. |
D.Generosity means sharing everything with your friends, which helps a friendship grow. |
Do you struggle to say no? If you can’t ever say no to anybody, then your relationships are not healthy.
Then you spend ten years on the island with your partner and you don’t see anybody else.
That is how our relationships with others can shape who we are in a bad way. Does this sound like you?
But being assertive doesn’t mean that you have to say what you want all the time.
A.You partner is very aggressive |
B.Relationships shape who we are |
C.Learning to deal with different relationships is important |
D.Being assertive(坚定自信的) is not the same as being aggressive |
E.Your entire life is about avoiding being shouted at |
F.You often feel depressed because of her aggressive behavior |
G.For example, if you strongly dislike playing chess every week with your recently divorced friend |
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