One of my close friends seems to be distancing himself from me now. I have tried facing him, who just pretends I’m not there, and I’ve asked for advice from other friends. I feel I’m not good enough. What am I doing wrong to make someone act in such a manner toward me?
If you also suffer from such a situation, you probably have come across a great principle of psychology: the tendency to see reality only through your own feelings and perspective. You will find a much smoother path through the social world if you recognize that not everything that happens to you is about you. In fact, many other possibilities exist. Perhaps your friend is busy with other matters or is dealing internally with problems of his own.
What’s troubling you is the double dose(剂量)of negativity about yourself—you assume you’ve done something wrong and, facing your friend’s disturbing behavior, you’re quick to call in bad feelings about yourself. As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “No one can make you feel bad without your permission.”
We humans are all imperfect creatures: if there is some aspect of your personality or behavioral style that you feel needs improvement, then you’re just like everyone else. Studies show that a large number of people at every age want to better some fundamental aspect of themselves.
The situation you’re in calls for inquiry, which is especially helpful in repairing social relationships. If you want to know what’s going on, you might approach your friend directly by saying how much you’re feeling shut out from your friendship, that you miss it, and that you’d like to know what seems to have gone off the track. You’ll get an honest response only by asking straight. And if it turns out that you did do something that wasn’t well received, you can decide whether it’s something about you that needs fixing.
【小题1】How does the author introduce the topic of the text?A.By making a comparison. | B.By raising a question. |
C.By providing a definition. | D.By describing an experience. |
A.The improper manners. | B.The negative thinking. |
C.The ignorance of friends. | D.The lack of psychology. |
A.People like to follow others’ steps. |
B.It’s important to have a good personality. |
C.People desire to improve themselves at all ages. |
D.It takes time and effort to become a perfect person. |
A.Putting yourself in your friend’s shoes. | B.Caring nothing but your personal affairs. |
C.Coming straight to the point with friends. | D.Fixing the problems by your own efforts. |
Finding friends that share your interests does not have to be difficult.
Check out online friend seeking websites like friend finder.com, wayn.com or Facebook.
Go to social events in your area-maybe they support a cause you love or include a band that you enjoy. As soon as you meet someone at one of these events,you will know you already have an interest that you share.
Join a sports team at your community center.
Meet new friends through friends you already have.
A.Join a class in your community |
B.Many people are looking for friends |
C.Decide why you want to meet new people |
D.Friends come and go throughout one’s lifetime |
E.You will find people with the same interest in sports |
F.Sometimes we can find a connection through a friend |
G.You can meet friends that share the same interests on these websites |
There’s no doubt that when it comes to friendship,you want positive people in your life and not negatives ones.
A.Here are some benefits of spending time with positive friends. |
B.That’s why you’d better surround yourself with positive friends. |
C.In most cases,they will go out of their way to help you when you’re in trouble. |
D.The same is true for being positive. |
E.As we all know,there are many benefits of being optimistic. |
F.Your positive friends will inspire you to be the best you can be. |
G.Most of the time,you have to ask them to help you when in trouble. |
Ann was my best friend. She had come to play half an hour ago and I didn't want her to leave. "Your mother said you could stay an hour." I said.
Ann pointed at the Teddy Bear on my desk. "I'll stay if you give me your Teddy Bear." she said.
I couldn't imagine giving it to her. It was a special gift from Aunt Reba on my tenth birthday. My aunt was a beautiful and kind woman who was never too busy to spend time with me. The day she died I cried for hours unable to believe that I would never see her again. Now when I saw the Teddy Bear I was filled with memories(回忆)of Aunt Reba.
“Come on,” Ann shouted, “I'm your best friend."
I don't know what came over me but I really wanted someone to play with me. So I handed Ann the Teddy Bear! Then she stayed.
That evening I went to bed without dinner. The memories of Aunt Reba brought tears to my eyes. How ashamed I felt. I was sad all night.
Alone in the dark I asked myself "Is Ann really my best friend?”
At school the next day I found Ann. I asked for the Teddy Bear. She was surprised at first. Then she thought for a few seconds and finally said "Okay, I don't like it anyway."
After that Ann and I stopped playing together. Through the years I have had other best friends. I have come to understand that best friends are people who want to spend time with you and they ask nothing in return.
【小题1】Why didn't the writer want Ann to leave?A.Because the writer wanted someone to play with so much. |
B.Because Ann's mother wanted her to do so. |
C.Because Ann didn't want to leave. |
D.Because the writer wanted to give Ann Teddy Bear. |
A.She was still alive. | B.She was too busy to spend time with the author. |
C.She was kind and beautiful. | D.She was 10 years old. |
A.a gift from Ann | B.a gift from Aunt Reba |
C.the writer's aunt | D.the writer's best friend |
A.The Teddy Bear | B.Aunt Reba |
C.My Tenth Birthday | D.Best Friends |
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