One of my close friends seems to be distancing himself from me now. I have tried facing him, who just pretends I’m not there, and I’ve asked for advice from other friends. I feel I’m not good enough. What am I doing wrong to make someone act in such a manner toward me?

If you also suffer from such a situation, you probably have come across a great principle of psychology: the tendency to see reality only through your own feelings and perspective. You will find a much smoother path through the social world if you recognize that not everything that happens to you is about you. In fact, many other possibilities exist. Perhaps your friend is busy with other matters or is dealing internally with problems of his own.

What’s troubling you is the double dose（剂量）of negativity about yourself—you assume you’ve done something wrong and, facing your friend’s disturbing behavior, you’re quick to call in bad feelings about yourself. As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “No one can make you feel bad without your permission.”

We humans are all imperfect creatures: if there is some aspect of your personality or behavioral style that you feel needs improvement, then you’re just like everyone else. Studies show that a large number of people at every age want to better some fundamental aspect of themselves.

The situation you’re in calls for inquiry, which is especially helpful in repairing social relationships. If you want to know what’s going on, you might approach your friend directly by saying how much you’re feeling shut out from your friendship, that you miss it, and that you’d like to know what seems to have gone off the track. You’ll get an honest response only by asking straight. And if it turns out that you did do something that wasn’t well received, you can decide whether it’s something about you that needs fixing.

【小题1】How does the author introduce the topic of the text?

A．By making a comparison.	B．By raising a question.
C．By providing a definition.	D．By describing an experience.

【小题2】What’s the cause of the author’s suffering from the situation?

A．The improper manners.	B．The negative thinking.
C．The ignorance of friends.	D．The lack of psychology.

【小题3】What can be learned from the studies mentioned in Paragraph 4?

A．People like to follow others’ steps.

B．It’s important to have a good personality.

C．People desire to improve themselves at all ages.

D．It takes time and effort to become a perfect person.

【小题4】What does the author advise in the last paragraph?

A．Putting yourself in your friend’s shoes.	B．Caring nothing but your personal affairs.
C．Coming straight to the point with friends.	D．Fixing the problems by your own efforts.