Since our twins began learning to walk, my wife and I have kept telling them that our sliding glass door is just a window. The______is obvious. If we______ it is a door, they’ll want to go outside_______It will drive us crazy. The kids obviously know the_______But our insisting it’s______a window has kept them from______millions of requests to open the door.

I hate lying to the kids. One day they’ll______and discover that everything they’ve always known about windows is a_______I wonder if______should always tell the truth no matter the_______I have a very strong______that the lie we’re telling is doing______damage to our children. Windows and doors have______metaphorical(比喻)meanings. I’m telling them they can’t open what they absolutely know is a door. What if later in______ they come to a metaphorical door, like an opportunity of some kind, and______opening the door and taking the opportunity, they just______it and wonder, “What if it isn’t a door?” That is, “What if it isn’t a______opportunity?”

Maybe it’s an unreasonable fear. But the______is that I shouldn’t lie to my kids. I should just______repeatedly having to say, “No. We can’t go outside now.” Then when they come to other doors in life, and whether they are real or metaphorical, they won’t______to open them and walk through.

Driving home from work every day on a long winding country road, I passed a house where an elderly man sat on his front porch（走廊）.I had been _____ to him only when I first moved into my home.

For these past fifteen years, I have _____ my window, waved, and shouted, "Hi, Charlie." I felt _____ to greet him in this way because I couldn't _____ going through a day without hearing someone say my name. I felt he also needed to hear his name _____ by someone else.

I used to _____ at his wife, too, when she was out walking their dog. She was a（n）_____ woman in a long wool coat, whatever the _____. I didn't know her name, but I'd _____ and say "Hi, Grandma" and she'd smile and wave back.

But then came the day when she was not ______ walking their dog；instead, Charlie was doing so. I realized he was alone, and the desire to greet him grew ______. My window was rolled down before I came around the corner, and ______ he was not on the porch, I'd shout to him, hoping that in his ______ he'd hear me. As long as there was a ______ on in the house, I felt that he was all right.

But that day came when he had to sell his belongings; Charlie's pickup truck was for ______ on the front lawn. A few days later, a sign was ______, and I knew Charlie was gone. I still wave and ______, "Hi, Charlie" as I pass just as I did in the past. The house is dark now.

It is my ______ that all of us need to be greeted at least once a day and that we need to hear our names spoken aloud by another person, to know someone sees us and ______ the truth of our being. I believe it is our duty to greet each other each day, in this way to prove that ______.

Many of us who’re suffering have asked ourselves this question—“Why me?”. Undoubtedly, the question is _________ This way of thinking fuels self-pity and can _________ us. How do we defeat them? When find myself heading toward a pity-party, I try to _________ what I can’t change. I cannot change my adult son but I can change the way _________ with him.

Years ago when my son first came out of _________, I was constantly asking him. ＂Do you plan to participate in the after-care program? Most often, he would _________ me off with a response like, “I was busy this week but plan to look into it soon. ”Finally, I worked hard to get out of my own _________. Now during our frequent telephone conversations, I don’t ask questions or _________ advice but talk about his beloved dog and other _________ topics. Over the years I’ve come to __________ my son with his strengths and weaknesses like everyone else.

I have learned I should avoid __________. In our competitive culture, we’re encouraged to be __________ than others. So when friends tell me about their children’s __________, I tend to compare their good fortune to my family’s misfortune. Instead, I should be grateful that he can afford the rent rather than living in the streets.

Presently, my son is in __________ and I’m involved in a recovery program as well. We both receive tools to __________ “Why me?” and other negative thoughts.