Over the years working as a psychologist, I have found that the following habits seem to be the most important for developing a happier, healthier mind,

【小题1】
By nature, most of us are critical of our emotions—especially the difficult ones: You feel anxious and afraid and then immediately criticize yourself for being weak. Though something feels bad, it doesn’t mean it is bad. 【小题2】 When your muscles are painful after a good workout, your pain is a sign of growth and health. Sometimes pain is helpful. By avoiding it or trying to get rid of it, you could be making things worse on yourself.
Be realistic with your expectations.

When you create an expectation in your head—which is really just you imagining the thing you want to be true—it relieves some of that anxiety and uncertainty for the time being. But in reality, your expectations are merely fictions in your own mind.

Expectations have their place. 【小题3】 If you want a calmer and more peaceful mind, get into the habit of checking on your expectations regularly and make sure they aren’t too far outside of reality.

Practice compassion (同情) in your self-talk.

【小题4】When you’re too negative and particular about yourself, you turn normal embarrassment into intense shame; everyday depression into anger; ordinary sadness into desperation. If you want to start being kinder toward yourself, follow The Other Golden Rule: 【小题5】 The next time you feel bad, imagine that a good friend felt the same way and came to you for support and advice... What would you say to them?

A．Acknowledge your emotions.

B．Try to avoid painful emotions.

C．Negative self-talk worsens your emotions.

D．In much of life, pain is actually a good thing.

E．Treat yourself like you would treat a good friend.

F．But they may run wild and cause negative effects if ignored.

G．They teach your brain that your emotions are bad and dangerous.