In ancient Greek mythology, we learn about a young man named Narcissus. He was so beautiful that he fell in love with his own reflection. But soon he realized that what he loved was not real. As a result he became sad and died. In the place where he had stood appeared a yellow flower - a narcissus.
This is where the word “narcissism” came from. Unfortunately, narcissism is often used negatively - it is usually used to mean being self-centered and not caring about others.
However, part of the reason that narcissism carries these negative meanings is that many people admire themselves in an unhealthy way. But the truth is that good self-love is necessary for our mental health, scientists say.
A study published 10 years ago shows that low self-esteem is responsible for many social problems, and it can affect teenagers seriously. When they feel less confident and not as good as their classmates, teenagers are more likely to suffer from depression, according to the BBC.
The other reason that narcissism is considered an ugly thing is because we are taught that we should care more about others than ourselves and that it’s better to give than to receive.
Thinking about others is the right thing to do, without question. But psychologists say that the love of others is actually based on self-love --if you see yourself as an unpleasant stranger, how can you make friends with anyone else? After all, you are closer to yourself than anyone else. You can’t love another until you love yourself, and you can’t expect someone to love you if you don’t love yourself.
If you find that believing in yourself is a challenge, it is time to build a positive self- image and learn to love yourself. You’ll be surprised how nice it can be!
The best way to defeat a negative self-image is to step back and build your pride. Make a list if you need to, but record all of the great things you do every day. Think about how you are always there for your friends; how you help your classmates with their homework; how you manage to get good grades.
If you think you’re weak because you can’t finish a 1,500 m run, get to the track and practice. If you think you’re dull because you are not in fashion, buy a few new clothes. But remember, just because you think it, it doesn’t mean it’s true.
The next time you look in the mirror, try to tell yourself that you are one of a kind. Pick out your best qualities and be proud of yourself.
【小题1】Why does narcissism often have a negative meaning?A.In ancient Greek mythology, Narcissus’s story is sad. |
B.Narcissism is a habit in which people unhealthily admire themselves. |
C.Narcissism is responsible for many social problems. |
D.Narcissism harms one’s mental health. |
A.Teenagers’ physical and mental health is negatively affected. |
B.Teenagers who don’t like themselves are often ignored by teachers. |
C.Teenagers are more likely to suffer from depression. |
D.Teenagers often feel that they could have done better. |
A.People cannot love themselves without loving others. |
B.To love others is the right thing to do, while self-love is not. |
C.Self-love is the basis of love for others. |
D.To love yourself depends on whether others love you. |
A.You can’t finish a 1,500 meter run. | B.You are not in style. |
C.You are weak or dull. | D.You have a negative self-image. |
A.To persuade people to stop being narcissistic. |
B.To suggest that parents care about children’s self-image. |
C.To advise people to look in the mirror and like themselves. |
D.To encourage people to accept and love themselves. |