Feeling attractive and confident has little to do with your appearance and everything to do with how you feel about yourself on the inside. Every person is an individual and has attractive qualities to focus on. 【小题1】

(1)Do what you can do.

【小题2】Don’t complain about something that you are not willing to change. Begin dieting and exercising if you are overweight. Change your hairstyle, have your nails done or arch(使成弓形) your eyebrows.

(2)【小题3】

Let your hands swing, keep your neck straight and hold your shoulders back. Walking confidently will make you feel more attractive and be more confident.

(3)Don’t compare yourself to others.

You don’t have to look like a model or a host on TV. However, you can learn to love yourself as you are. 【小题4】. Make a list of your attractive qualities, and think about those each time you want to compare yourself with someone else.

(4)Avoid negative thoughts about yourself.

We live in a society that constantly tells us more is better, leaving us under huge pressure. To be truly happy, we should set boundaries (界限)with ourselves. We need to start saying no to impulsive (冲动的)purchases, late-night TV shows, and unhealthy habits that ultimately leave us feeling empty and guilty. 【小题1】

Behind every fancy purchase is a desire for recognition. We secretly want to be noticed for wearing an expensive watch or carrying a designer purse. Before taking action, such as making an expensive purchase, ask ourselves, “Who am I doing this for?” 【小题2】 However, if not, then we need to say no to it.

Saying no becomes easier when we remove our worth from material possessions. Making more money does not make us more worthy than someone living on his salary. 【小题3】 Remember that our worth is an undeniable part of who we are, which comes from our humanity.

【小题4】 Trying to please everyone makes us spread ourselves too thin. The truth is that we have a limited amount of energy and time. It is important to be wise with our resources.

Sometimes people’s actions may cause feelings of envy in us, such as when they make purchases or achieve their goals. There is always someone out there who has more of what we desire. 【小题5】 Just focus on living a life that fits our values and goals.

Having a shy style isn’t necessarily a problem. It’s OK to take time to warm up to new people and situations. 【小题1】Some people want to feel less shy so they can enjoy socializing and being themselves around others. Here are some tips on overcoming shy feelings.

● 【小题2】 Practice social behaviors like eye contact, confident body language, introductions, small talk, asking questions, and invitations with people you feel most comfortable around. Smile and build your confidence.

● Think of some conversation starters. Often the hardest part of talking to someone new is getting started. Think of   conversation openers, like introducing yourself, giving a compliment (赞美), or asking a question. 【小题3】

● Rehearse (排练) what to say. When you are ready to try something you’ve been avoiding because of shyness — like a phone call or a conversation, write down what you want to say. Read it out loud in front of a mirror. Then just do your social activities.【小题4】Few of the things that more confident people do are perfect, either.

● Give yourself a chance. 【小题5】 Practice socializing with these new people and get to know them slowly. People who are shy often worry about failing or how others will judge them. Don’t let these worries and feelings keep you from trying.