Kindness is something that leads you to do what can help other people. With kindness, you can show your willingness to contribute something good to the lives of others. 【小题1】

Create a sense of belonging

The feelings of loneliness destroy a person’s mind. However, when you develop a habit of exhibiting kindness, you will be amazed to see how strong connections you have made and how these connections benefit a huge number of people. 【小题2】

Reduce bad feelings

【小题3】 Exhibiting kind manners results in good feelings. On the other hand, getting anxious gives a feeling to the mind like hitting a hammer on your body. It means that bad feelings can severely affect your mental happiness. When you get into an act of kindness, bad feelings like sadness, anger, and fear can be reduced.

Come back around

If you showed kindness towards somebody in the past, the particular person may remember you. The probabilities are high that he will help you in the future.

Encourage you to live life happily

The acts of kindness together can improve the feelings of happiness. Aiding others can make you live with confidence. 【小题4】 In the end, it uplifts (使振奋) everyone’s spirit.

Strengthen connections

【小题5】 For most people, showing kind behaviors explores many possibilities to begin a social connection with somebody. Kind acts like helping your friends or relatives in their bad days can strengthen your connections with them.

Whether we’re making small talk with a waiter, or meeting up with a close friend, we may hope to make a connection, only to leave the conversation feeling that our minds have failed to meet. 【小题1】.

Ask questions

If you want to have a meaningful dialogue with someone, then you should make the effort to ask some questions. 【小题2】. A follow-up that requires more information about a previous point is more appealing than a “switch” that changes topic, or a “mirror” that simply copies what someone has already asked you.

Be cautious about empathy(同理心)

We are often told to place ourselves in other people’s shoes. But our empathy is rarely as accurate as we think it is. 【小题3】. “It’s when I’m using my own experience, my own mental states, as a representative of yours,” says Nicholas Epley, a professor of behavioural science. “And we fail to differentiate sufficiently between the two.” In general, it’s far better to ask someone what they actually think and feel than trying to guess it.

Favor familiarity over originality

【小题4】? The drawback of novelty arises from the “informational gaps” in our conversation. If we are talking about something completely new, our audience may not have enough knowledge to understand everything that we are saying. If we are talking about something already familiar to our audience, however, the listeners can fill in those gaps themselves.

Don't be afraid to go deep

This need for common ground should not limit our conversation to dull small talk. 【小题5】. And most people appreciate the chance to explore their innermost thoughts and feelings, even if they are talking to perfect strangers.

When practicing each of these steps, you should always remain conscious of the other person’s mood and comfort. With a little strategy, sensitivity and a genuine interest in the people around you, you may often find that greater social connection is easily within your reach.

That day, after church my son told me his two friends were very hungry. After careful consideration, I took them to a cafeteria within a store for lunch. It's really affordable though I'm not all that comfortable in supporting my family. However, when I got to the cashier（收银员）, I found my wallet missing.

The cashier had pity on me and helped me think through some ideas for paying the bill. Then the cashier offered to pay for the meal first and then have me reimburse her through a payment app. So, I stood to the side to download the app. But because my phone was an old one and there were tech problems, this was taking me a very long time. Everything was loud; it got so hot there; and I was uncomfortable. But,                    the boys were jumping round and screaming. I came so close to be mad. So I sent them on various errands（差事）to keep them busy. And then I remembered to breathe.

Seeing me still having trouble downloading the app, the cashier called me back and handed me a receipt（收据）, telling me, "Here you go. It's on me. Enjoy your meal." I was touched and thanked her. The cashier didn't know my son's friends hadn't eaten yet, and that this meal was likely to be their only one that day. The cashier not only simply saved me from the embarrassment（窘迫）of a missing wallet, but also made sure these boys had food for the day.

After our meal, I planned to go back to the cashier to thank her and pay back the money, as I'd finally gotten the app working on my phone. But she was gone, and the other workers weren't sure of her name because she was new, But I didn't plan to make this wonderful cashier unknown to her boss and her colleagues. She should be praised.