In 1988, a married couple welcomed their first child into the world.. However, a year later, Kashif’s parents noticed that their son was _________ to sit up like other babies.

After several _________,the couple were told that their son had cerebral palsy (脑瘫). Kashil’s mother said, “We knew nothing about the _________, but we were happy to learn that his disability was physical and that his intelligence was _________.”

When he was old enough, Kashif started attending school. He _________ the ability to read and write. In 2009 Kashif expressed his wish to _________. The family kept telling him that he was _________ and could not do tasks that other people could. His frequent _________ went on till early 2012, when a relative, Sham Latiff, had a _________ with Kashif. “I want to work and __________ people like me,” Kashif said. Sham __________ that Kashif really wanted to have a __________ in society.

After much discussion, Kashif’s family made his dream come true. On his 24th birthday, Kashil’s family __________him with his “present”. With his __________ fingers, Kashif used an iPad to create a Facebook page called the “I Am Speciable” Movement. Kashif himself __________ the word “speciable”, a combination of the words “special” and “able”.

To date, the movement has organized many __________. Kashif also sells “I Am Speciable” T-shirts through his page to __________ money. Kashif has helped many students like him in his community through his __________. “Speciable” is more than a coined word.

The Facebook page __________ the radio and local newspapers. The family’s support has made Kashifa __________ member of society—a superman taking up a cause for his own community.

In the corner of my desk is a note, slowly yellowing from time. It is a _________ from my mother, containing only four sentences, but with enough impact to _________ my life forever.

In it, she praises my abilities as a writer. Each sentence is full of_________ . The word “but” never appears on the card; _________ , the word “and” is there many times.

Every time I read it, I am _________ to ask myself how many times I’ve “but-ted” my own daughters.

Although our eldest daughter _________ got all As on her report card, teachers would always suggest that she _________ too much in class. I always forgot to ask them if she was making improvements. _________, I would greet her with, “Congratulations! Your Dad and I are very _________ , but could you try to talk less in class?”

The same was __________ of our younger daughter. Like her sister, she is a lovely and bright child. She also treats the floor of her room as a closet ( 壁 橱 ), which has often caused me to say, “Yes, that project is great, but __________ your room!”

I’ve noticed that other __________ do the same thing. “The hockey ( 曲 棍 球 ) team won, but Mike should have made that last goal. ” “Amy’s the homecoming queen, but now she wants $200 to buy a new dress and shoes. ” But, but, but.

What I __________ from my mother is to start thinking “and, and, and” instead. __________: “The hockey team won, and Mike did his best the whole game. ” “Amy’s the homecoming queen, and she’s going to look perfect!”

The __________ is that “but” feels bad, “and” feels good. When our children feel __________ about what they are doing, they do more of it.

This is not to say that children don’t need or won’t respond to their parents’ __________ . They do and they will.

When those expectations are __________, amazing things happen.

It’s not __________just to say we love our children. We’re also going to have to start guiding and taking part in what is right with our children.

“No more buts!” is a call for __________. It’s an opportunity every day to put our attention on what is promising about our children.

And if I ever forget, I have my mother’s note to remind me.

Spending two days wondering if your father will live or die brings you many things. It allows you to _______ every moment of life. It fills you with good memories, and it fills you with pain. It _______ you of something that can easily be forgotten as you run around in your _______ life: life is incredibly fragile (脆弱的), and can be _______ in an instant.

I sat there in this hospital room, feeding the man I’ve seen as _______ and capable in my entire life. It felt like the full circle of life had come around us. It was both _______and frightening. It felt_______to support him, yet part of me wanted to tell him to “be _______” again. I wasn’t sure if I was ready to _______ the full meaning of it: that my father may________ be that powerful and capable person again.

Pain and suffering have visited my family, __________ it will visit all families. And while we hesitate to __________ pain and suffering, it has great lessons to ________ us. Pain and suffering are well outside of the boundaries (界限) of our everyday life. When it __________, it broke these boundaries and turns our world upside down. We become a__________ with all of the others who have known pain and suffering. And we have another chance to tell what’s truly __________ in our lives.

This crisis (危机) will pass, and we’ll all be changed by it. The ________ hands of time will do their work. I’m thankful that I’ve told my __________ everything I’ve wanted to say to him. And I’m thankful to have my family to __________ during this difficult time. We’ll all be ________ by this to show more support, care, and love. This is as it should be.