Six ways to find out what you really want in life

You can’t point exactly what you want in life .You’re constantly sacrificing your time and dreams for other people.【小题1】 Ask yourself: if you weren’t tied down by your job, family, or anything else,   then what would you be doing right now?

To be good to yourself is not selfish. It’s your life. It’s time for you to live it exactly the way you want to. If you constantly regret things you did or didn’t do in the past, then you won’t be able to move forward. 【小题2】

Sometimes it’s hard to figure out what you need. Sit down and think about what you need most. The freedom to express yourself? Love? Financial security? Something else? If it helps, you can make a list. Also think about what you want to leave behind.

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You can fly only by pushing back against something you don’t want. Figure out what upsets you, and be specific about it. Don’t just say that you hate your office job. Pinpoint exactly why you hate it. Could it be your strict boss? Your workload? Your meaningless job title? Or all of the above?

There’s no life to waste if you’re happy with living it. 【小题4】 Being around children? Is it traveling? Owning a successful business? Financial freedom? Once you figure out the one thing that makes you happy the most, you’ll have a pretty clear idea of what you should struggle hard to get in your life. Let people around you know what you’re trying to achieve. Don’t keep your goals and de sires to yourself. Voice it all out! If you tell people what you’re trying to accomplish, they will most likely support you and give you new ideas. Sometimes mother does know best!

Life doesn’t always go how you want it. Don’t feel discouraged as your plans go wrong. Take control. Instead of being anxious, try your best to advance with the changes. You will get there someday. 【小题5】 You’re just taking a little detour(绕道).

Being able to explain concepts in a clear and attractive way is an excellent skill to have. Whether you’re giving a presentation or a speech, leading an important meeting, sharing your passions with friends, or just wondering how you can improve your communication skills, we’ve got you covered. 【小题1】

Start with the most relevant information.

Give your listeners the information or answer they’re looking for first. While context can be important, an audience might be more active if you tell them why they should be interested at once. 【小题2】. You can then look into the basic details after.

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Explain a couple of the main points and avoid using specialized language. It can be easy for you to understand it right away because you know about the topic. However, everyone has a different knowledge base, and this may confuse your listeners if they don’t know much about the topic. Instead, start with the basics, focusing on 2-3 major points that explain the bigger picture.

Check the audience’s understanding.

【小题4】 It can be important to meet your audience where they are and build up their knowledge so you can get your point across. If you’re not sure what your listener already knows, try asking questions like, “Do you already get this?” or “Is this making any sense?”

Encourage your audience to take action.

Try ending your explanation by telling your listeners why this topic should matter to them. 【小题5】 Or telling them what your topic might mean to them personally or to human is OK.

Have you taken inventory(调查) of the stress in your life? Stress can come from work. It can come from family. It can come from the places we live and the lifestyles we choose.

In a recent survey, 60 percent of respondents(被调查者) said the city in which they live is noisier now than five years ago. The other 40 percent? They didn’t hear the question.

How much stress do you feel? Though not all stress should be avoided, too much pressure can cause lasting harm in practically every area of your life. The solution is to take control.

Robert Reich did just that. As Secretary of Labor in the Clinton cabinet(内阁), Robert B. Reich, told of his decision to resign from the stressful job. He said, “I have the best job I’ve ever had and probably ever will. No topping it.” It was true. He seemed to love his job. But he added, “I also have the best family I’ll ever have, and I can’t get enough of them.” And there was the problem—too much of a good thing. He could not give himself to his family and to this particular career at the same time.

So Reich said, “I had to choose, I told the boss I’ll be leaving, and explained why.” His boss, of course, was the president of the United States. And the country took notice. Some people were surprised. Here was a high government official who made a decision to step out of an important and powerful position in order to spend more time at home. He took control.

That is the first step to free ourselves from unnecessary stress: take control. Make the hard decision. It may be a decision for less money, a smaller home, a new location, a different job, less prestige(声望), or a simpler lifestyle. But I believe: it will be a decision you will never regret.