“What do you want to be when you grow up?” When I was a kid, I ______ the question. Adults always seemed terribly disappointed that I wasn’t dreaming of becoming something grand or ______, like an astronaut.

Now, as an organizational psychologist, my job is to fix other people’s jobs, and I’ve come to believe that asking youngsters that question does them ______.

My first complaint about the question is that it ______ kids to define themselves in terms of work. If we define ourselves by our jobs, our ______ depends on what we achieve. So when you are asked what you want to be, it’s not socially ______ to say “A father” or “A mother”, let alone “A person of integrity”.

The second ______ is the implication that there is one calling (职业) out there for everyone. Research shows that ______ one leaves students feeling lost and ______. After all, not everyone has that talent for grand jobs.

If you manage to ______ the above barriers, there is a third hurdle (难关) : careers rarely live up to your childhood ______. In one study, looking for a(n) ______ job left college seniors feeling more anxious and less satisfied with the ______. As Tim Urban writes, happiness is reality minus expectations. It’s clear how expectations ______ our perceived happiness. If you are looking for extreme happiness, you’re bound to be disappointed.

Asking kids what they want to be leads them to ______ a career identity they might never want to earn. Instead, invite them to think about the different things they might want to do.

There are too many fat people in America, so many Americans are fighting against overweight. But the ___ thing is that the French, who consume rich (油腻的) food too, ___ to stay slim. Now the ___ by Cornell University suggests ___ lifestyle and decisions about eating may affect weight. Researchers conclude that the French tend to stop eating when they feel ___. However, Americans tend to stop when their ___ are empty or their favorite TV show is over.

According to Dr. Joseph Mercola, a health expert, the French see eating ___ an important part of their lifestyle. They enjoy food and therefore spend a ___ time at the table, while Americans think eating is ___ to be squeezed in between the other daily activities. Mercola believes Americans ____ the ability to sense when they are actually full. So they keep eating long after the French have stopped. In addition, he points out that Americans drive to huge supermarkets to buy canned and ____ foods for the week. The French tend to shop daily ____, walking to small shops or farmers’ markets where they have a ____ of fresh fruits, vegetables, eggs as well as high-quality meats for each meal.

In spite of all these differences, evidence shows that recent lifestyle ____ may be affecting French eating habits. Today the rate of obesity (肥胖) — or extreme overweight — among adults is only 6 percent. However, as American fast food gains ____ and the young reject older traditions, the obesity rate among French children has reached 17 percent and is still growing.

If the law punished addiction, we would all be in prison because we are addicted to our phones.

We’re hopelessly _______ by them, helplessly devoted to them. Our hands and minds are _______: texting, tweeting, liking, emailing, sharing. We find ourselves _______ stimulated.

My iPhone is the last thing I look at when I go to bed and the first thing I look at when I _______.When it’s not there I feel its _______like an amputee (被截肢者) still feeling a (n)_______leg. It is my entry to culture and fun. I love it. You love yours.

But the comment on this enormous _______ in our behavior has been completely _______. The central claim is that technology makes us _______ what we already know about life, and it ________us developing fully independent selves. And the quality of human relationships is said to have ________. Parents are distracted by work emails at the dinner table and in the playground; children cry for ________ until they finally get an iPad for Christmas. Gatherings of old friends can’t do a couple of hours ________ checking their Gmail every 10 minutes. Technology sucks the life out of us, and takes our souls in________ for the convenience of not having to learn how to read maps properly.

I simply do not ________ the idea that we aren’t fully whole due to our phones, just because we can talk to our friends whenever we want, without any ________ for the limitations that space and ________ used to set on us. This helps us to get________. It doesn’t set us apart.

We will photograph. We will edit. We will ________, like, love and envy. ________, in our own strange way, we will control our heavily doctored (改变的) lives. Our phones are the bars of our gorgeous cage.