When the subject of friendship comes up in a conversation, you often hear some form of this complaint: It is hard to make friends as an adult. And if, for whatever reason, you do not _______ your childhood or college friends, you can end up in your 30s (or 40s, or 50s) knowing a lot of people, but being close to very few of them.
It is not hard to understand why. When you are overworked and overwhelmed, the _______ to have dinner with a friend versus turning on Netflix and eating pizza with your spouse (伴侣) can be hard to come by. But the research is clear: Close friendships are _______ to one’s best health and well-being.
“We’re _______ creatures,” said Serena Chen, a professor of psychology at the University of California, Berkeley. “When we’re intimate (亲密的) with another person, we can experience _______ mental and physical reactions in our body, mind and heart.”
But what exactly does _______ mean?
Popular culture is filled with enviable examples: the friend who will take a bullet for you; the friend who you can call in the middle of the night and always count on to be there for you, regardless of the _______; the friend with whom you can share anything.
_______ close friendships (unsurprisingly) do not need to be quite so extreme. “The key to a close friendship is intimacy (亲密), and a big part of intimacy is being able to be fully yourself and be seen and _______ by others,” Dr. Chen said.
Reciprocation (相互性) is also a key element to the ________ of intimacy. That explains why all the “likes” and compliments from your social media friends for something you share online—though they may feel good—don’t necessarily create intimacy because there is no ________ of ideas and feelings, explained Dr. Chen.
Now you may be left wondering, if close friendships really are that vital to the well-being of humans, wouldn’t it make more sense for us to be ________ skilled at making them? One would tend to think so, but it turns out that the opposite may be true: Close friendships are so important to us ________ they are so difficult to form.
According to John Cacioppo, the late social neuroscientist (神经学家) who specialized in the study of loneliness, humans would have evolved a built-in bias (偏见) against easily making friends because ________ an enemy would have been more important than making a friend. “If I make a mistake and detect a person as an enemy who turns out to be a friend, that’s O.K.—I don’t make the friend as fast, but I ________ .”
Dr. Capiocco said in a 2017 interview with The Atlantic. “But if I mistakenly detect someone as a friend when they’re in fact a dangerous enemy, that can cost me my life. Over evolution, we’ve been shaped to have this bias.”
【小题1】A.keep up with | B.agree with | C.stay connected to | D.feel understood by |
【小题2】A.courage | B.confidence | C.motivation | D.resources |
【小题3】A.natural | B.essential | C.applicable | D.obvious |
【小题4】A.complex | B.intelligent | C.social | D.changeable |
【小题5】A.automatic | B.positive | C.strong | D.chain |
【小题6】A.closeness | B.friendship | C.experience | D.well-being |
【小题7】A.availability | B.distance | C.inconvenience | D.signal |
【小题8】A.Serious | B.Reliable | C.Long-time | D.Real-life |
【小题9】A.touched | B.observed | C.taught | D.understood |
【小题10】A.analysis | B.formation | C.structure | D.recognition |
【小题11】A.displaying | B.exchanging | C.comparison | D.innovation |
【小题12】A.especially | B.naturally | C.remarkably | D.particularly |
【小题13】A.because | B.although | C.if | D.unless |
【小题14】A.making | B.joining | C.avoiding | D.facing |
【小题15】A.flee | B.mature | C.succeed | D.survive |