“If you don’t behave, we’ll call the police.” is a lie that parents generally use to get their young children to behave. Parents’ lies work in the short terms, but a new study led by NTU Singapore suggests that they’re associated with harmful effects when the child becomes an adult.
The research team asked 379 Singaporean young adults whether their parents lied to them when they were children, how much they lie to their parents now, and how well they adjust to adulthood challenges. Adults who reported being lied to more as children were more likely to report deceiving their parents in their adulthood. They also said they faced greater difficulty in meeting psychological and social challenges.
Lead author Assistant Professor Setoh Peipei from NTU Singapore’s School of Social Sciences said, “Parenting by lying can seem to save time especially when the real reasons behind why parents want children to do something is complicated to explain. When parents tell children that ‘honesty is the best policy’, but display dishonesty by lying, such behavior can send conflicting messages to their children. Parents’ dishonesty may eventually break trust and promote dishonesty in children. Our research suggests that parenting by lying is a practice that has bad consequences for children when they grow up. Parents should be aware of this and consider alternatives to lying, such as acknowledging children’s feelings, giving information so children know what to expect, offering choices and problem-solving together, to help children develop good behavior.”
The analysis found that parenting by lying could place children at a greater risk of developing problems that the society disapproves, such as aggression (侵害) and rule-breaking behavior. Some limitations of the study include relying on what young adults report about their past experience of parents’ lying. “Future research can explore using more information providers, such as parents, to report on the same topic,” suggested Asst Prof Setoh.
【小题1】Why is a parental lie mentioned in the first paragraph?A.To introduce the topic for discussion. |
B.To tell a popular way to educate children. |
C.To prove the great influence of the police. |
D.To show the harmful effects of parental lies. |
A.worrying | B.abusing | C.disappointing | D.cheating |
A.Their parents lied to them when they were young. |
B.They think lying to their children can avoid wasting time. |
C.They believe dishonesty can help solve adulthood challenges. |
D.They are afraid their children will suffer more by telling truth. |
A.Identify with the children’s emotions. |
B.Force good behavior on their children. |
C.Stop children knowing what to expect. |
D.Let children solve problems independently. |
A.It is quite controversial. |
B.It is rather meaningless. |
C.It needs to be perfected. |
D.It demands honest responses. |
Times are a little tough at our house right now. Neither of us makes a lot of money, but years of experience have taught us how to walk between the raindrops and make it from one month to the next with a fair amount of grace. I cook a lot at home, more when we're facing lean times. When I know that I have to keep us fed on not much money, I fall back on my grandmother's recipes. She taught me to cook.
When I was a kid, my twin brother and I spent long summer weeks and Christmas vacations with my mother's parents in the mountains of North Carolina. Rather than go hunting with my grandfather on frozen mornings, I found myself more and more in the kitchen with my grandmother, watching her making a lemon cheese pie with her soft hands.
My great-grandmother died when my grandmother was 11 years old. As the eldest daughter, she was expected to take on all of the housework while attending school. Throughout the Great Depression, she learned how to make a little food go a long way. Vegetables were cheap, so she cooked a lot of them, mostly only using small amounts of meat for seasoning. Roast beef was a twice-a-month luxury, but there was nothing she couldn't do with a chicken, every part of it. Nothing went to waste.
Now I understand that her food was sacred. I feel connected to my grandmother and to hundreds of years of family when I'm in my kitchen making country food. In the delicious smells is a long tale of victory over hard times, of conquering starvation—of not just surviving, but finding joy and pleasure in every meal of every day.
From grandmother I learned to take real satisfaction in feeding people. My grandmother would beam with pleasure over a heavily laden table and say, “Do you know what this would cost at the restaurant? ” I never knew what restaurant in particular she had in mind, but I knew that the question was totally not fair, because no restaurant anywhere can cook like a grandmother. But now, thanks to her guidance and years of practice, I can.
【小题1】According to the passage, the author cooks a lot at home because__________.A.she wants to try out her grandmother’s recipes |
B.she and her husband are quite particular about food |
C.she enjoys cooking at home |
D.she and her husband are embarrassed financially |
A.with a bad harvest | B.with little money |
C.with little enengy | D.with little work |
A.learnt to cook throughout the Great Depression |
B.was careful in budgeting |
C.preferred chicken to beef |
D.was careful in cooking vegetables |
A.Cook like My Grandmother | B.My Grandmother’s Sacred Food |
C.My Grandmother’s Recipe | D.Joy and Pleasure in Cooking |
For nearly thirty years I did parent programs in all of the fifty states, and regardless of the community, there was always a shortage of fathers attending, usually by a 10:1 (mothersfathers) ratio. Maybe they were all tending to business, and they obviously didn't think school was any of their business.
The world is now flat. How's that for a sea change? As Thomas Friedman described it in his book The World Is Flat twenty-five years ago, the power structure of the world consisted of highs and lows. The countries with the power and knowledge were at the top of the mountains and the rest were down in the valleys. A handful of countries (the United States, Britain, Germany, and Japan) ruled the world's economy because they monopolize (垄断)the information and power.
Then came the Internet. Suddenly the countries down in the valleys were connected to the information network and the work flow. These included India, Eastern Europe, South Korea, Brazil, and China. Don't believe it? Walk into a supermarket and pick up any ten toys, checking each for where it was made, My last count: China, ten out of ten. The world's workforce became “flattened”. No more disconnected valleys.
Since 2000, U.S. manufacturing has lost six million jobs, one-third of its workforce, most of them males. For the first time in history, women hold the majority of jobs in the U.S.
The only people who don't understand the sea change in business are the fathers and sons still clinging to the image of the male who doesn't need to play school—just play ball. It's been thirty years since that idea had any wings, but too many males are still trying to make it fly. Once the only thing that mattered for men was what they could get out of the ground with their hands. Now it's what they can get out of their heads that counts. And without classroom success, today's male faces an impossible challenge from both intelligent women on the home front and foreigners willing to do the same job for less while sitting in an office in Bangalore or Singapore.
【小题1】Based on Friedman's description, why is the world becoming flat?A.US which is the most powerful country controls the information. |
B.Knowledge is shared globally with the development of the Internet. |
C.Goods made in China and other countries are increasingly popular. |
D.The mountains and valleys are flooded by the sea water these days. |
A.be positively involved in boys' schooling for academic success |
B.focus mainly on the physical development of their boys |
C.spend more time playing with their boys to get their belief fly |
D.do more housework because the mothers are more intelligent |
A.A news story. | B.A book review. |
C.An educational book. | D.An economic report. |
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