A young girl, who enjoys being the center of attention, may act out for her friends and family. Then one day her mother tells her to stop being so silly and grow up. This negative attention may make the girl feel ashamed of her behavior and from then on, hold back her free-spiritedness and then go through life feeling as if she can’t fully express herself for fear of being laughed at.
The girl’s experience shows how people live with shame when they have been criticized (批评) for just being themselves.
When it comes to teenagers, there are times they can be extremely difficult and try their parents’ patience. When parents become frustrated, they may say things like “I am starting to really not like you. ” They may not mean what they say. They may just be tired of arguing with the teenager and have become emotionally overwhelmed. However, the teenager doesn’t know their words are out of frustration, and may feel his parents are telling him they’re sorry they ever had him. The child may conclude that he is a bad person. Such casual criticism by parents can linger and stick to children like glue.
How to make this better? The next time a child shows you a drawing he’s done, or sings a song for you in an effort to get your attention, recognize that your response may be extremely important toward the child’s willingness to continue to explore these creative efforts. When a child is dancing and an adult makes fun of him, the negativity he feels can completely shut the child down from that activity, or even worse, fill him with shame as if something’s wrong with him.
That is why it is so important for parents to recognize that children are exploring their world.The more encouragement we how then and he more we keep their sense of what’s possible alive, the more likely they will be to explore and find their own enthusiasm in life.
They will keep alive their joy and their dreams for the future. As parents, I don’t think we can hope for anything more.
【小题1】How does the author introduce the topic of the passage?| A．By describing a scene. |
| B．By giving an explanation. |
| C．By making a comparison. |
| D．By providing an example. |
| A．They may have a low opinion of themselves for long. |
| B．They may no longer feel afraid of being made fun of. |
| C．They may want to challenge their parents’ patience further. |
| D．They may work harder to live up to their parents’ expectations. |
| A．Point out his weaknesses. |
| B．Protect his passion for exploration. |
| C．Comment on his behavior. |
| D．Encourage his reflection on himself. |
