Speaking to Develop Self-confidence

Overcoming stage fright

Most people are nervous about public speaking. 【小题1】If you know that your topic is interesting, and that your material is well organized, you have already reduced a major worry.

Facial expressions

【小题2】During your speech, try to change your facial expressions to convey the emotions that you feel. Throughout your speech you need to use expressive facial expressions.

Eye contact

When you speak, you should look your audience straight in the eye. The idea is to give the impression that you are talking to each individual in your audience. If you have a large audience, try to look at people in the middle of the room, then slowly look to the right side of the room, then to the left side, then back to the center of the room. 【小题3】Otherwise, this will give the audience the idea that you are not interested in your topic or in them.

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Enthusiasm is being lively and showing your own personal concern for your subject and your audience. If you are truly interested in your topic, your delivery is certain to be enthusiastic and lively.

Varying speaking rate

Your words should not be too fast or too slow. If you speak too slowly you will bore your audience. If you speak too rapidly will be difficult to understand. Adapt your rate to the content of your speech. For example, if you explaining complex information, slow down. 【小题5】

We all want to be successful in our work.But what happens when our achievements come at the risk of losing important friendships? If your friends didn't receive what they were hoping for，your success could make them feel like they've been “left in the dust”．But does that mean that we shouldn't enjoy our achievements in case we displease someone or that we should feel sorry for being successful when others aren't?

Those of us who value friendships and close working relationships might feel embarrassed for achieving more than our friends.But we deserve(应得)our success，and nothing should take it away.Jealousy (嫉妒) is only natural，but it's often unreasonable，too.Your success is probably not connected with your friends' progress，so you shouldn't feel bad about achieving your goals.If your friends stay unfriendly，don't be afraid to keep yourself away from them.You are not responsible for their weaknesses，and nor should they treat you harshly(严厉地)for improving your work.

On the other hand，your friends may think highly of your   recent success while hiding their real feelings.They could be jealous，angry or sad that they are not progressing at the same rate.So，be careful not to boast.It's a thin line between pride and self­importance，and by crossing the line，you may risk losing team support.

Next time you want to boast about your end­of year win，or high­class new office，consider your listeners.Maybe your friends narrowly missed out on a position raising，or experienced pay cuts which meant they didn't get what they were expecting.If your work is on a rising path，it doesn't mean that's the case for everyone.

Perhaps a step forward in your work has meant that you don't spend as much time with your friends as you used to.If you've changed a post.or moved to a new office，take the time to stay in touch with old friends.Chances are that in the build­up to your success you've built strong relationships along the way.Don't let that hard work go to waste by losing touch with them.

Many of us are hardwired NOT to ask for help. We think it makes us appear weak. We think people will say no. we think we have to do everything ourselves.【小题1】. We have to get over that, and there’s how:

Get over yourself

No one—and I mean NO ONE----got anywhere alone. You cannot and should not do everything yourself. You are not, in fact, always the best person for the job, or the “only” person who can do it. asking for help is sign of strength, not weakness. Asking for help clears space for you and frees your time and energy. 【小题2】.

Rebuild your thinking

Rebuild what it means to ask for help from “I am a weak, incompetent loser” to “I am strategically allocating my time to focus on what matters most.” Don’t focus on the fact that you can’t do something or don’t have the time.   【小题3】. It’s a chance to connect, a chance to value a colleague, a chance to get something done faster or better, a chance to optimize your own time and talents.

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Asking for help is about tapping valuable resources to get the best outcome the most quickly with the fewest resources expended. That’s a fancy way of saying “get the right people for the job.” 【小题5】. And the best way to do that is to know your colleagues, and proactively build relationships.