When things go wrong, many people turn to their friends for comfort and support. Are you the kind of person your friends trust to be there for them when they’re feeling down? 【小题1】. You might feel awkward or nervous about comforting a sad friend at first, but with a little practice, you won't have to worry about saying the wrong thing or making the situation worse. When one of your friends is upset, help him/her by being there for him/her, finding the right things to say, and avoiding common mistakes.

1. 【小题2】. Comfort your friend according to how upset he/she seems to be. If he/she seems to be very troubled, it may take more effort on your part to help him/her. If something is bothering him/her, but he/she isn’t too upset, be there for him/her without overreacting.

2. Find out what’s wrong. Before you say anything try to figure out what the problem is. 【小题3】. If you try to talk to your friend without knowing the situation first, you could end up with putting your foot in your mouth.

3. Give your friend a hug. A kind touch will do wonders for your friend, even if you don't know what he/she is upset about. 【小题4】.You can also pat him/her gently on the shoulder.

4.Let your friend vent(发泄). If your friend needs to get his/her sadness or anger out, let him/her do. Pay attention and don't interrupt. Encourage him/her to express himself/herself fully.

5.Just listen. Your friend needs someone to listen compassionately to him/her right now, so focus on doing that. Be patient and non-judgmental. 【小题5】. Don’t act bored or try to change the subject.

Have you ever noticed that some difficult situations tend to repeat themselves? Does it seem as if you married or dated the same kind of person several times in different bodies with different names? Have you run into the same type of boss over and over again? If you don't deal well with authority figures at home, then you will have an opportunity to deal with them out in the world.

You may try desperately to avoid these repeated difficult situations, which seem to have become your set patterns, but they will eventually catch up with you. The only way you can free yourself of them is to shift your perspective on them seriously and persistently. To face the challenge means you need to bravely accept the fact that something within you keeps drawing you to the same kind of person or issue repeatedly in your life. This is no easy task, since it means you have to change, and to change is not always easy. Staying just as you certainly is comfortable in its familiarity, but does not help you advance spiritually.

Rising to the challenge of identifying and releasing your patterns forces you to admit that the way you have been doing things isn't working. However, the good news is that by identifying and releasing your patterns, you actually learn how to change. In order to facilitate your process of change, you will need willingness and patience.

When struggling to make a change, ask yourself, "How willing am I, really, to make this change?" If you truly want to change, you will make a commitment to the process of it. If you absolutely hate getting stuck in traffic, chances are that you need a little work in the area of patience. And, chances are, you will probably get stuck in more traffic jams than someone who has patience. It is not because the universe has a sense of humor. You just notice and care about the traffic more than someone who has patience. Remember, you just need willingness and a little patience. Once you master these, you will most likely find the challenge of identifying and releasing your patterns far less frightening.

Living Well with Others

A good life is one that is beneficial to living well with others, while living comfortably and honestly. However, not everyone can deal with the relationship well with others. 【小题1】

This article will cover some ideas you may want to consider.

Smile at those around you. It’s often been said that a smile is catching. Research suggests that’s true. Studies suggest that friendly engagement (交往) with others improves happiness levels, at least in part. 【小题2】

Help others. Studies have shown that helping others has a direct relation to individual happiness. 【小题3】 Volunteering to help others has been connected to better quality of life.

【小题4】 The golden rule is still the most important rule for getting along with others. Think of how you would like your friends to act around you. If you treat people with love and respect, they will treat you with the same.

Value your friendships with others. The quality of a person’s friendship has a direct effect upon their well-being. Friends can increase a sense of your sense of belonging and purpose.

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